at what age would you consider this to be a problem?

[cantGoWontGo]

My sister?s ds is 3. She has attempted to potty train him on 4 separate occasions, when he was 2.3, 2..6, 2.8 and again when he turned three, and she has absolutely no success. I know that most people have limited success if a child is too young, but he hasn?t had one single wee/pooh on his potty and seems oblivious if he wees/poohs in his pants ? he?ll quite happily just sit in it. She?s tried everything, stickers, rewards, they have stayed in while doing the training, nursery have had a hand in training as well as they potty train up to 4 children at a time and all the others who have been potty trained have been trained successfully but dn seems to have no interest. Even the nursery have expressed some concern as they have never had a child that has been so difficult to potty train. Now it?s becoming more of a concern as his nursery won?t put him up to the next class if he?s not dry ? none of the children in the preschool class are in nappies and therefore my dn will be held back until he is potty trained and all his friends are being put into the higher class.

I appreciate that some children don?t learn to go on the potty/toilet until they are approx 3, but at what point is this considered to be a concern? Is there anything she can do? She doesn?t want him to be held back. He?s generally bright and understands most things, but doesn?t seem to even have a grasp of what the potty is for.

[poisson]

how loign does he last fro at at ime?
oyu need to go for a t leat a week imo

[cantGoWontGo]

first time she gave up quite easily (after about 5 days, the last three times she's tried for at least two weeks, last time even took him out of nursery for one week to stay at home with him.

[poisson]

thin she needs to do it when not at nursery
my ds seemed to eb rubbish there

[brimfull]

I think she needs to persevere .I don't know if it sounds like there is a problem but you'd need to beable to tell a dr. you had tried for atleast a month I think before they would do any investigating.Sounds like really hard work,mu ds was bloody awful bit eventually got it second time around after 2 weeks.

[QueenEagle]

ds3 was like this. He was 3.3 when I bit the bullet after 3-4 failed attempts. Did sticker rewards and bar a handful of accidents he has cracked it after about 2 weeks. He's now 3.7. He wasn't interested in the slightest before this age, would sit in wet or dirty pants seemingly oblivious. Even now I have to watch for the signs that he needs to go but he is getting gradually better. Def the hardest of my 5 so far.

[CountessDracula]

I would wait
My dd was the same, then at 3 and a couple of months she just did it. No accidents

(she still won't bloody poo in a potty though but that's another story grrrrr)

[KTeePee]

My ds was 3yrs 2 mths when we finally cracked it after many false starts. Tbh I had a small baby as well at the time and just could not cope with "accidents" so kept giving up. What seemed to work in the end was him getting tall enough to be able to wee in the toilet standing up "just like Dad"!