My eight year old is going through a patch of telling lies - quite serious ones. This week there's been a book fayre in school and she wanted to know if she could buy one...it cost £9.99. Three different titles were offered for this rather expensive book...none of which turned out to be the right one - it was not a book at all, but a game. I said 'no', citing the expense as the reason.
That night, her £10 birthday money disappeared - she'd taken it to her room ready for school the next morning. She was told off, and again given reasons for not spending £10 on a book - (needing her money for the coming holidays being one of the reasons).
At parents' evening the next day I discovered she had indeed bought this game!
At home, when questioned about the location of the money, she said she didn't know, it wasn't upstairs, she thought she'd lost it. When I confessed to knowing exactly where it was, she was given a chance to admit what she'd done with it and she 'fessed up.
However, the point is, she'd lied and gone behind my back several times and gone ahead and taken the money. i know it was here money, but she'd been told directly and specifically that she could not buy this game.
She was not embarrassed at being found out, nor did she seem particularly sorry. she's a child who cries quite easily and this did not elicit a single tear. She said sorry - but only when asked to, and didn't sound as if she meant it. She's been grounded until the end of next week and banned from watching tv.
HELP - any suggestions how to get through to her the importance of telling the truth? (this is not the first time it has happened, yes we've had the story of the boy who cried wolf, and she does understand that telling lies is wrong). What do I do?
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zamed · 14/07/2006 10:48
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