sounds really silly but dd isn't 'clingy' enough

[Hayls]

THis might sound a bit silly but I'm worried that dd isn't 'clingy' enough. She is 2 1/2 and very confident. She'll go into a room filled with people and not even flinch slightly (e.g went away with 15 friends to Centerparcs- hadn't seen them since she was a few months old- and she just wandered in and started talking to them). She will happily chat to total strangers and when we were viewing houses she asked almost every estate agent to carry her. When I drop her at nursery she doesn't bother in the slightest, often doesn't say goodbye unless prompted- she just toddles in and starts playing or cuddling the staff. SHe is happy to go off with family (not often though as they are 6 hours away) and they say she doesn't ask where we are- last time was for 2 days!!

I don't really know what the point of this post is but it feels like dd doesn't need or want me and is happy to go off with anyone. I actually get upset every time I leave her at nursery because it feels like she'd rather spend time with them than me I don't exactly want her to be distraught but if she asked me where I was going and when I was coming back it would be different...dono't know why...

Dh says it is because she is happy and confident and knows I /we will always come back for her but I still worry. She is very affectionate to me and dh; always cuddling and kissing and saying she loves us but almost every other child I know behaves very difierently when separated form their parents.

Maybe I'm just realising that my baby is starting to grow up...

Sorry for rambling

P.S Suppose if it was the total opposite I would still be complaining

[MamaG]

My DD was exactly the same, now she is almost 7 and very confident and popular at school. I was quite shy as a child and it was horrible, so glad she's not.

DS is a bit more clingy and although it's nice to feel a bit more, erm, needed/wanted, I'm a bit worried about how he'll settle at school (in 2 years time!!!!)

Mums, we're never happy, are we?

[Hayls]

Thanks MamaG. Think part of it is that both dh and I are pretty shy, I was terrible at school so I find it quite hard to understand how she can be like that (with us as parents and to actually have those traits- as in I can't imagine how it would be)

[madmarchhare]

DS is exactly the same. We hid from him in the woods the other day, he didnt care a jot.

The only reason it bothers me is that I cant say 'OK, bye then' when he doesnt want to leave somewhere.