when ds was first born we had a fantastic hv who never questioned what i was doing and was always really supportive. however she went of sick at christmas and up until today (apart from mmr) i have not seen anyone. So today i met the stand in hv who just popped round to introduce herself and see how things were going. when talking about the fact that i still bf my 14 month old she commented 'well it is fine if that's what you want to do but you do realise the longer you leave it before you stop the harder it will be for ds'..... will it be harder?????????
on doing his growth measurments she said 'well his weight has slowed down a bit, he is very long and his head measurements have slowed down to....but i should'nt worry about it'...... should i worry or not? why comment if it is not a worry.
after reading his red book after she had gone she had written 'covered in lesions'.... firstly they are not lesions they are eczema and he is not covered all over it is just on both his arms.... to say covered in lesions could mean anything to someone who does not know us ie lesions from cigarette burns lesions from bruises etc...
and finally when ds was 10 months old he was still sleeping in bed with me and waking hourly with the only means of getting him back to sleep being a quick bf, needless to say i was exhausted and beginning to feel quite ill (am also a single perent so do not have much help) as i had started back at work i really needed to do something to get him sleeping better, i had always been anti controlled crying for various reasons but when all else failed and with some advice and support from here that is what we did, it took two days (lots of tears from me) and now he is sleeping in his cot waking only once a night, much brighter in himself and is eating really well so despite my (still) reservation i guess you could say it was a success, hv said 'i am not a fan of cc, no other animal shoves their baby on the other side of the room and expects it to cope on its own, i always worry about the long term effects on the child when using cc'......... Thanks alot!!!! Maybe if i had had a bit more support from you guys in the first place (when i was really desperate i could never get hold of them on the phone) i might not have had to resort to cc in the first place, now i am going to think his every little insecurity is down to me because i used cc to get him to sleep!!!!
sorry bit long but best to get it off your chest.... am i over reacting???
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my hv has really upset me!
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jollyfolly · 12/07/2006 19:59
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