Just looking for some advice on how to make it easier for Ds to adapt to nursery. He will be 2 yo this weekend and we would like to send him for 3-4 hours a day Monday to Friday.
There are 2 main reasons for this, firstly Dc2 is due at the end of January and I would like Ds to be settled in nursery by then so that he doesn't feel pushed out by the baby if we send him after birth. (and I don't think I would cope very well with a baby and toddler all day long). Second reason is, I think it would actually be good for him and he will enjoy being with other children once he is settled, he is definitely getting bored with me all day and I think he needs other stimulation and physical play, which will be harder and harder for me as the bump grows bigger.
So, he started nursery at the beginning of September and during the first week we increased the time gradually from 30 mins to 2.5 hs and he was fine about it, some days he asked for me after a while but they could generally distract him. Unfortunately he then caught a D&V bug so he was off for a week and I "spoilt" him in that I BF him on demand again (normally he only feeds before going to bed, when he wakes up and at nap time), let him watch TV a lot, etc.
He then went back for 4 days and he wasn't protesting when he went in, but one day they called me to ask if I wanted to get him as he had been crying for a while, so I went to pick him up. Then, due to his birthday we went away from Thursday to Monday to celebrate his birthday with the ILs and he got spoilt rotten with lots of presents over the few days and constant attention from all the different relatives and ourselves.
Since he has been back, he starts crying at home from the minute I tell him that he has to go to nursery, on and off all the way there (only 10 min.) and then cries a lot and gets very upset on the way in. They tell me that he cries for quite a while and then grows calmer, unless another child stats crying or he hears the door and it's not me, in which case he cries again.... Yesterday they also told me he didn't join in any of the activities and when the teachers said "let's sing/read/paint...." he kept saying "MiniMeewhoo no!".
I think this is all connected with a very possessive phase he has been on for the past couple of months where everything is "mine" including his food, the toys at the playground and his body (i.e. if someone touches him when he doesn't want them to he goes "mine", even if it's me trying to change his nappy, he'll go "my bum!"). He also has become quite unsociable with strangers and even people that he knows but doesn't see often. If they start talking to him his immediate reaction is to go "no" or "mine".
He used to love being with other children and, even though he has never been extremely sociable, he used to be fine with new people after having had a few minutes to "suss them out". He went to a playgroup without me from 15 to 18 months for 3 hours a day and, although he sometimes cried when I left, it was never for more than 2 minutes as I could hear him calm down before I was out of the building, whereas now he goes in full tantrum screaming mode, even though he walks in the place himself and doesn't try to run away or kick, etc.
DH and I have agreed to stick it out for at least another couple of weeks and then re-assess, but any advice on how to make this easier for Ds will be hugely appreciated.
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Ds (2yo) doesn't want to go to nursery and other issues (sorry, v. long)
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MeeWhoo · 27/09/2013 10:00
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