Poor DS has been 'challenging' today

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PseudoBadger Sat 31-Aug-13 19:20:29

DS is 2 years 7 months. I am 34 weeks pregnant.

He has always been very clingy and would follow me around, getting upset if I went to the loo etc.
We've never had any behaviour issues that haven't been overcome with me being consistent and calm, which I've always found easy. He's generally pretty compliant.

Today he has hit a new low. It's been a real love-hate relationship today. He has hit me in the face a couple of times (once more accidentally but whilst holding something, once on purpose and got me in the eye). He's clambering all over my ample bump which isn't a problem as long as he stops when I ask, but he hasn't stopped today.
He's kicking me if I change him or get him dressed, normally I battle on through and we move on but I'm just worn out today.
Despite appearing to hate me he's screaming blue murder if I leave him.

He has been out of the house 3 times today, and been in the garden when we're at home. He's had a nap. It's like a monster has come from nowhere! And I'm almost at the end of my tether pregnancy wise size of a whale and am not sleeping well. My patience is running thin and I really don't need him to do this right now.

Can anyone help? <pleads>

PseudoBadger Sun 01-Sep-13 10:44:41

Does it damage them to see us sobbing do you think?

JellyCurls Sun 01-Sep-13 10:44:51

Aaargh!!!! My darling DS has managed to open the upstairs window and through DD's toys out of it so now got both of them screaming. Why we having number 3 again???

Ledkr Sun 01-Sep-13 10:48:15

Well experts would say yes but yesterday she saw me sobbing, stopped being an arse for a second and said "alright mummy?"
I should think not letting it out before losing the plot is more damaging though.

PseudoBadger Sun 01-Sep-13 10:53:54

Yes it must be better to cry than to pummel them gently against the wall for example. I'm joking kind of

You are brave Jelly! But look at old Ledkr here, she got five and is doing just fine grin

Ledkr Sun 01-Sep-13 12:42:48

Less of the old!! Haha
All went well until I was trying to leave the house and the phone rang I was literally 3 mins cue massive tantrum and took off shoes. Red rag to a bull!
Marched her to car chucked her in car seat and drove her to pool with music blaring.
Feel such a bloody crap mother

Shlurpbop Sun 01-Sep-13 15:50:06

I've given up with my 2 year old today. Announced to my husband that 'you can deal with her tantrums, I've had enough!' And am now back in bed, sulking, fully clothed and on mumsnet.
Hmm. It's worked though - they both think I've lost the plot so are being very nice to me in case I cry!

DS is the same age and exactly as you describe - I think most of it is powered by massive overwhelming feelings, and apparently there's lots of testosterone around at this age must be why he's always shouting at his sister and pushing her in the head - I just try and react calmly, explain that hitting or whatever hurts and when everyone is calm offer a cuddle. I personally think that it's fine for our DC to see us cry every now and then, I'm not talking all the time but just occasionally when we need a cry I think it's alright for them to know that we have feelings too. I broke down over something DS did the other day and he surprised me by offering a cuddle, his favourite soft toy and some kind words. I think it's just a phase and I'm trying to deal with it as calmly as possible!

PseudoBadger Sun 01-Sep-13 22:41:38

How did the rest of the day go Ledkr?

Good to see you Shlurp and Nice!

I've had a better day today as I mainly palmed DS off onto DP's friends who played football with him in the garden and let themselves get bossed around grin so I feel refreshed before our long day together tomorrow. I was going to take him to a great farm but it's closed on Mondays, so I'm trying to decide what to do.

Ledkr Sun 01-Sep-13 22:58:26

Omg! I was THAT woman in sainsbos. She screamed all the way round refused trolley but ran off when I got her out, any attempts to hold her hand resulting in her going limp.
Tried to put (tiny amount) of shopping which was our lunch for the pool,through self service but she kept touching it so "unexplained item in the bagging area" being yelled at me.
To too it all she woke up as I came to bed and isn't showing signs of going back off as yet.
Have to be in hospital by 7.30.

PseudoBadger Sun 01-Sep-13 23:24:56

Oh no! That is a bad day, I'm sorry sad
Well
Enjoy your hospital break and rest, and I hope all goes well for you tomorrow. Come back when you feel able x

Bumpsadaisie Mon 02-Sep-13 07:29:09

Hate to say it but from memory 2.5 to 3 years was very challenging, the "twos" at their most intense.

By 3 DD was much more obedient and open to reason/negotiation.

My DS (22 mths) has just started saying " no". I'm feeling the fear !!

Ledkr Mon 02-Sep-13 09:55:15

<massive eye roll>
Well I knew that would happen!
It looks like it maybe cancelled.
Fuming. See thread in chat for further explanation I'm too angry to type. Grr

PseudoBadger Mon 02-Sep-13 12:26:11

Oh no! I hope it isn't after all your planning sad

Ledkr Mon 02-Sep-13 15:05:29

Ok it's sorted I'm off soon.
Be back later. I'm starving!

Anxiouswoman Mon 02-Sep-13 19:25:48

Can I join in? Going through a v rough time with 2.11 yo ds. Tantrums that involve screaming, hitting, throwing and scratching. Its exhausting. To top it off he has a gastric bug that is involving hospital trips and vomiting, and Ive got a sinus infection. Feel like bawling with stress. Have done on and off but trying not too.

PseudoBadger Tue 03-Sep-13 07:43:40

Hi Anxious nice to see you. Has this started recently or been building up for a while?

Hope all went well Ledkr

Anxiouswoman Tue 03-Sep-13 07:52:25

I think its been building up for a while, he seems to be flexing his independence. Not sure how to deal with it!

newmum001 Tue 03-Sep-13 09:44:07

Can I join please? Dd is 2.11 and a bloody nightmare recently, made worse by the fact that only mummy will do, daddy isn't allowed to get her dressed, make her dinner, play with her, do her bath etc. Trying not to let her rule the roost but find myself giving in and doing everything for an "easy" life! She's 3 in 2 weeks, please tell me she'll wake up that morning and the terrible 2's will have come to an end.

Ledkr Tue 03-Sep-13 09:54:52

Hi all. Welcome new stressed mums.
I'm ok just waiting to see if I can go home.
Had no sleep as is usually the case.
I have missed my monster terribly and sobbed when I was sent a picture of my dd in her stiff school uniform.
Here's wish you all stress free days.
newmum dd tries to dictate who does what eg. Won't get up in the morning if its not who she chooses to do it.
We try to play it down as much as possible and not always give in to the demands.

TwentyTinyToes Tue 03-Sep-13 10:52:32

This is so familiar, my DS is 2.8 and has been horrible this morning, flinging stuff around dangerously close to his sister, hitting me, leaving toys temptingly close to baby DD then snatching them back when she grabs them, just thoroughly awkward.

When i told him off he put on a very calm, quiet voice and explained that he was swinging his crane around to hit his sister hmm arghhhh

My top tip when pregnant and dealing with a toddler is run a massive bath with toys and bubbles, make yourself a hot drink and a book or phone, dump toddler in the bath and relax. grin

TwentyTinyToes Tue 03-Sep-13 10:53:40

*and grab a book or your phone.

PseudoBadger Tue 03-Sep-13 14:07:23

Could I run the bath and enjoy it myself with DS safely contained in his bedroom? grin

Newmum one of the things that has annoyed DS most is that instead of me doing every bedtime, which would very soon become impossible, DP and I now do alternate ones. We tell him "it's daddy's turn tonight" for example, and he'll usually scream piteously as he is dragged carried up the stairs "but it's mummmmmyyyyy'ssss turrnnnnn"..... Make sure that daddy is on board and isn't going to wimp out, and then make him do things and put up with being kicked, smacked etc while you relax with a cuppa!

Glad you are ok Ledkr, are you home yet?

newmum001 Tue 03-Sep-13 19:17:27

We try to do bedtime together as dp works long (ish) hours and it used to be something we all enjoyed. Tonight however was the latest in a long line of bedtime disasters. I had to read the story which I obviously don't mind but it was interrupted constantly by her kicking dp and trying to shift away from him, she then refused to give him a kiss but made a big deal out of giving me my kiss. He's announced that he no longer wants to be part of bedtimes and I don't blame him, it'd upset me if she was like that with me.

Anxiouswoman Fri 06-Sep-13 19:59:01

Hello everyone. Today ds was fine til late afternoon and he threw a tantrum because he wanted to eat TWO chocolate pots. When I said no he threw everything in sight, then asked for a cuddle, and then when I lowered myself down to him he said 'I want to hit you' and kept lunging at my face. i told him no and left him in the dining room alone while I went into the kitchen, then he screamed the place down and clawed at me screaming 'I want to hit you' for ten minutes straight.

Shattered now.

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