Anger/ODD

(12 Posts)
kelsco78 Tue 06-Aug-13 19:37:19

I can totally sympathise with you. My son is 9 years old and this has been going on since birth. Lots of interventions been put in place but nothing worked. Now we are finally being seen by a second lot of CAHMS, hoping this time will finally get help we need

PolterGoose Fri 26-Jul-13 14:52:44

My ds is now diagnosed with Aspergers and has lots of anger problems. The one thing that changed everything for us was Ross Greene's book "The Explosive Child", an amazing book.

Quite a few of us on the SN boards have experience of having children with anger problems, feel free to pop over. Also, as well as what Fanjo says, and to support it really, keep a diary and video anything you think might help a doctor see what you see.

It is really hard having an angry child, and we often both blame ourselves and get blamed, it is rarely our fault, and highly unlikely to be the result of anything you have or haven't done, do be kind to yourself flowers

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 26-Jul-13 12:00:28

That's a natural way to feel I think, but sounds like you did your very best to manage things in best way for all.

Hope appt goes well. smile

bexsybooboo Fri 26-Jul-13 11:55:25

Just wished I had done so earlier but I don't think I wanted to see it and put it down to him being challenging and completely the opposite to his sister but it is escalating and not fair on him as well as me and his sister.

Fingers crossed, you only ever want what's best for them and am hoping we can get through this all together.

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond it is really appreciated.

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 26-Jul-13 11:10:45

You are getting him help and doing the opposite of letting him down smile

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 26-Jul-13 11:10:24

You aren't letting him down, you have also been through a hard time yourself! Be kind to yourself too.

bexsybooboo Fri 26-Jul-13 11:09:34

Thank you fanjo. Just feel so sad and that I'm letting him down. We are both exhausted as the behaviour leaves us both drained.

Hoping to get through the week til doctors appt.

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 26-Jul-13 10:23:55

I'm sure they will..hang on in there smile

Hope things look up for you soon.

bexsybooboo Fri 26-Jul-13 10:22:26

Thank you, rang this morning and have booked doctors appointment for next week am hoping they will help us.

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 26-Jul-13 09:27:04

(Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services)

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 26-Jul-13 09:21:38

Can you ask GP for a referral to CAMHS so you can get some support?

He could be reacting to the difficult marriage or he could have a disorder..either way they will be able to help.

bexsybooboo Fri 26-Jul-13 09:19:57

Hi
Please share with me your experiences of anger or ODD in your children.

I have a 6 year old ds and am feeling like a failure with him. For a long time now he has had terrible anger outbursts and can be both physically and verbally nasty with them. Constantly excuses his behaviours by blaming those around him.

Am struggling as this has been constant this week every evening for 1-3 hours per night. The slightest and smallest thing can trigger and nothing I do can calm the situation.

At school no real concerns he can have his 'silly head' on but teacher advises that he is fine with his behaviour no more worse than any other 6yo boy.

His anger is aimed primarily at me and on occasion his sister.

Have separated from dad earlier this year which was a subtle emotional abusive marriage, ds behaviour has been like this for approx 2 years but is escalating.

Please share any experience or techniques of dealing with as I am emotionally drained and really do not know what to do, no approach is working and I've tried what feels like 100's.

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