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I'm so fed up of constantly cleaning up poo!

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DryCounty79 · 12/06/2013 20:35

My nearly 7 year old will not go for a poo until he is absolutely desperate and can't hold it in any more. So he doesn't, and I have to clean up poo-filled pants every single flipping day. Sometimes 2 or 3 times.

Sometimes he is constipated and then it leaks. Understandable, it happens to all kids sometimes and they can't help it.

But usually, it's because he just doesn't want to stop what he's doing to go to the toilet. I know he knows when he needs it. I'll catch him in the 'trying to hold it in' pose, when he'll admit needing it. Then he'll refuse to go to the loo because he no longer feels the need.
And he'll go when he needs to if he's doing something boring, like tidying or homework.

I feel like I've tried everything. Reward charts, making him clean his pants, telling him he'll be smelly and kids won't want to play with him, explaining his bottom will hurt, taking things away, smacks, positive encouragement when he goes in time, threatening to put nappies on him. Nothing works. He genuinely doesn't seem to care. I'm at my wits end.

I just had to get it off my chest, thank you for reading. And please tell me I'm not the only one going through this. I feel like crying right now, he's just completely ruined 3 pairs of brand new pants :-(

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nilbyname · 12/06/2013 20:40

Medical route,some sort talking therapy maybe? Have you spoken to your gp?

It is shot though- sorry no pun intended!

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DryCounty79 · 12/06/2013 21:00

Lol Intended pun would have been fine!

I did take him to the doc quite a while ago as I suspected a medical issue. But the doc didn't seem worried so I figured it was just something he'd grow out of. Will try the GP again though, as it's really getting ridiculous.

Thank you for replying :-)

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