So, there is a point when your angry with your child, and your brain tells you to 'stop talking' but your mouth keeps on going, way beyond reason and you end up shouting that you dislike your child in no uncertain terms.....results in both you and the child in tears....what brought it to ahead??? 3 years of building up frustration at my now 7 yr olds 'victim' like behavior.
He's my second child and first boy, he was an easy baby, adorable as a toddler, so very well behaved and so affectionate and happy, I loved being around him he was such a ray of sunshine, from the time he turned 4 he seemed to change, steadily, he went into a black cloud, from being fairly outgoing and adventurous to clingy, shy and being terrified of swings..... we hoped it was just a phase and that if we gave him time and encouragement he would come back onto some sort of even keel, and to a degree he has but the behavior he most commonly displays is that of a victim.
He is perfectly happy until things aren't completely to his liking (either he wants something we dont have, or will ask to do something he cant do) and then he will run off crying (but with fake tears and lots of noise) he is overly sensitive to other children and always seems to think they are 'out to get him'. Some of the time I think he is looking for something to be upset about and it makes me so cross.
We are at a loss as to what to do, we tried reassuring him that we loved him and giving him special time, we tried to talk him through the emotions and how its ok to be annoyed/frustrated that you dont get what you want but thats not ok to shout and sulk everytime. We tried ignoring the behaviour in the thought that he was simply attention seeking and giving positive prase on the occasions he didnt act out (which was rare!) but nothing seems to make any difference.
There was no major trauma in his life, my hubby and I have been happily married for 9 years, no one died, his younger brother was a year old and he adored him...he was content at preschool, even now he is ok at school...the thing that gets him into trouble is the sulking and crybaby stuff.... I know some of the issues will be because he has 2 younger brothers but I'm at a complete loss at how to stop the behavior!!!! any ideas??? I strive to be a good parent, but I fear I'm failing him in particular. :(
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bad parenting alert...help with 7 year olds behavior...
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ButtonJunkie · 31/05/2013 12:26
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