The reason I am asking is because I am a SAHM myself with a 19 mo who still BFs.
We started BLW at 6 months and I am at this point getting a bit fed up about how little solid food he eats. He only goes to a playgroup type thing on his own for 3 hours a day Mo-Fri, and the rest of the time I am more or less always with him, so breast milk is "there" almost all the time.
He is quite attached to breastfeeding and he is also quite active, so it is not easy to get him to sit down and have a meal as he sees this as an interruption/delay to what he is doing and he is not very patient either...
We do have periods where he seems to improve a lot, eat quite nice amounts three times a day, and he can go around 7 hours without breastfeeding -daytime only- and then something happens and he goes back to looooots of milk and not that much food.
The something is usually bloody teething, he only has his 4 upper teeth (just!) , 2 lower ones and 3 molars. To be fair a think that his slow teething is also partly responsible for the situation as he still finds it difficult to bit into things, although chewing is not a problem IYSWIM.
Although I am not worried about his food intake from a nutritional point of view as he is growing and gaining weight and seems very healthy and active, I am getting a bit fed up with it for my own sake. Also, I have started TTC but my periods are a lot more spaced out than before so a reduction in bfing would be a good thing.
So, basically, what I am asking is. Has anyone else "been there", and, if so, when would you say that your dc started eating a good amount of solid food?
P.S.: sorry for the essay and thanks if you have managed to get to the end!
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MeeWhoo · 02/05/2013 10:40
At that age they are still getting most of their nutrition from milk.
Dd2 steadfastly refused solids until she was 8/9 months when dd1 put a chocolate button in her mouth and she then though solids might (sometimes) be worth eating. She wasn't a big solid eater, even after giving up bfing when she was about 2.6yo. The only thing she would consistantly eat was sweetcorn. She hated certain textures, would either eat complete slop, or solids, nothing in the middle.
She's 9yo and a very good eater, eats everything in quantity.
Ds weaned on a piece of toast at about 7.5months. He's always eaten fine, but I bf him until he was about 3.6yo as he had a lot of ear infections, and when he had one he often didn;t want anything other than bm.
Dd1 weaned at 5 months (recommendation at that point was 4 month-HV nearly had a fit when she found she wasn't weaned at 4.5months
) Ate everything in quantity from the first day of weaning-whole banana within a week of being weaned type of level. I bf her until she was 3.1yo. At 8yo she had pneumonia and has grown fussier steadily from there. She hardly eats anything now.
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Hello FredFredGeorge, thanks for your reply. DS has never been away from me for more than around 4 hours at a time 
, !! If I left him with DH, I know it wouldn't me a major trauma or anything but I don't want to have to do that for the sake of it, IYKWIM as the only time DH could have him for 8 hours without me there would be on a weekend and that is our family time. He has already gone around 7 hours without feeding in the daytime of his own accord, although that just meant he was too busy with cousins, new things, etc. to stop and eat so it didn't make him eat a lot more solids either, just the odd bit of something he could carry in his hand...
TSC, that is what I was afraid to hear, as I have been waiting and waiting for breastfeeding to decrease naturally and, as I said, although I do see some progress and there are weeks where he does eat a lot more, then bloody teething gets in the way and we are back to where we started. I might give it a couple of months and then decide whether I have to go hardcore or not
Firstly breast feeding is a consensual relationship! It's ok for you to decide (at this age) when it is in offer.
Next, don't buy a microwave purely so you can heat yo a glass of milk. Put milk In Sippy cup in bowl of hot water.
You say dc is constipated, I used to have similar problem with dd so now she gets diluted fruit juice with meals. If she misses that she gets constipated very quickly.
Can you make the place he is eating meals less stimulating?
Don't stress about how much he's eating, he will eat what he needs and you won't do him any favours by trying to force him to eat more 
Some eat to live, some live to eat
Like i said he won't starve himself, maybe relax away from 3 meals a day and let him graze if it works for him. Personally I don't let dd roam with food but she asks to go into high chair and then I produce snacks she sometimes goes in highchair ten times a day.
It's ok to bf him if your happy to but don't feel like you have to every time he asks. If you think he's actually hungry offer yoghurt or whatever.
It's worth starting to explore what else can give comfort.
I can relate!
DS1 was ebf then blw, but dropped daytime feeds when I went back to work (from 11mo).
DS2 on the other hand still has 4-8 bf a day but mostly if he is tired, bored or sad. Keeping him busy gives me more of a break.
My periods didn't come back at all until 16mo and hadn't settled by the time I conceived (at 20m, mc, then again at 22m). But my fertility was obviously back 
Hope things work out for you, OP.
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