4 year old and bad behaviour

[childof79]

First time I have posted on here. I really want to know if my DS' behaviour falls within the boundaries of normal. He is 3 yrs old and at preschool - probably one of the youngest in his year (he is due to start school this September).

Anyway, I am having a persistent problem with him throwing toys all the time. I have tried every technique known to man. We have had reward charts where when he gets a certain amount he can choose a toy, coupled with time-outs. Nothing works and this evening he threw a heavy bath toy at his brother's head. Most of the time he is reasonably well behaved and quite sweet but he really has moments of complete meltdown. He has quite a short fuse as well.

I have wondered if there is something that goes on at school however, we have not had any bad reports except that they have said he is quite impulsive.

I don't know why I am thinking about this but I feel he should be growing out of some of his behaviours and he isn't. A couple of close acquaintances from our church have told me outright that he is really badly behaved.

I guess I just want to know if his behaviour is normal or if it is starting to point to behavioural problems as people are suggesting.

[NeoMaxiZoomDweebie]

Have you actually asked preschool if he's throwing things etc there?