My lo seems soo upset with life. She is always whining or moaning about sth and can scream at a volume I didn't think possible for a baby!! I can't do anything around house as always shouting and crying for me. Everything is a huge drama and I'm at my wits end. She fights sleep at every nap but I know she needs it. She has been sleep trained since 4 months but still throws a tantrum. I will admit Some days are worse than others but I am slowly going crazy. I don't go to many mums groups etc as try and stick to her routine thinking its what is best for her but I'd really like to get out and socialise but working out the best time to leave house is a hassle. She naps from 9am to 9.45ish and then again at 1pm til 2.15 ish with meal times before hand. Most of the classes I find are morning so we miss out nap.. Should I just go for it ?? Finding this stage particularly hard now even though she has always been a difficult baby. Any books I should be reading??
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Similar situation here! My ds2 is 16 months now and makes every day a long countdown to bedtime! It's horrible to hear the whinging and crying. He spends his days clinging to my leg, I pick him up and he wriggles and whinges to get down and play, I put him down and he's headbutting and clinging again. I try and sit on the floor to engage with him, he crawls away, turns back to look at me and then whinges again! I have the same problem with getting to toddler groups but not so much because of nap times but more because I have an older DS who I have to drop off at school and pick up at 3 so a lot of the groups start at 9 and finish at 11, by the time I've dropped DS1 off, walked (I don't drive) to the toddler group, it's 10am, he's ready for a nap around this time, then have to walk all the way home. Same with afternoon ones, all the ones here are 1-3 but it'd have to give DS2 his lunch there and leave early to get DS1 from school so there'd be hardly any time for any actual playing! DS2 is not good at napping in the pushchair either, will only have half an hour wheras he needs about 2 hours ideally which he gets in his cot. It's very hard work when you are stuck in the house and tied to a grumpy baby all day long so I do sympathise.
If it's any consolation at all, my DS1 was similar at this age too. I didn't really enjoy him at all until he was about 2 
but he's 5 now and fabulous!
Same same here, I'm finding DS is fighting naps more than ever as he is starting to transition to one nap, but because he never sleeps long enough, I know one nap isn't enough for him, otherwise he gets so cranky and the sleep debt accumulates until he starts waking again at night from being OT.
So I am mostly battling 2 naps a day but in the weekend I let our family plans take over and if he has one nap only I just try and catch him up,as quick as possible following days. (have to rock him to calm him down first t avoid that horrible long battle)
If she is only having 45mins in am nap is it possible that she is going down too early and this nap time needs to stretch out later now, or even go to one nap? It's such a fine line, I find if DS has STTN, then he needs to go down a bit later in morn to get good nap, if he has woken during night or been OT from day before he normally goes down within 2hours of waking.
I am the same will go to mothers group etc but ONLY after his nap, my mother friends know us now and understand he is not like their babies that eyelids just start drooping and they happily snooze away in broad daylight with people shouting, music blaring etc...DS NEVER does that! Lol
Some of my Inlaws dnt understand this, but to me, my night sleep is so precious after a year of minimal sleep so I will do ANYTHING to preserve it!
I also think they are so frustrated at this stage cos they have cognitive development, leaps and bounds but may not necessarily have body skills to deal with it yet. DS is always whingeing and whining cos heis frustrated with his own limitations. I have noticed he is better this week, new toys from his birthday are keeping his mind satisfied (age appropriate, challenging toys) and he seems to be happier because of his new achievements. For example he has just learnt how to sip from a straw cup he is so happy and proud that he can finally be independent and control his own drinking successfully. (only problems now I can't stop him drinking!!!)
Also listen to them, DS loves to be outside so we spend lots of time outside. I get to hangout y washing while he destroys the garden... 
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