Hi there,
Like someone else on this thread, I am having terrible problems with my son who is 3 years 9 months. We are expats and have just moved to a new country. I waited 2 months before I put him into kindergarten, and the school he is at has a healthy loving, nurturing and caring environment.
He is very, very aggressive - biting, kicking, scratching whenever he doesn't get his way. On occasion he will just lash out at us, a teacher, or a child for no reason whatsoever. The school want him assessed. I don't want him labelled, I want to work through these issues with him. He had similar problems in his last school.
We have tried the tough love approach - and to my shame, we also went down the smacking road when we were at our wits end. Of course that just made him worse, and also didn't help with his self esteem or security, particularly in our new environment.
We have now started to just "love" him. When he starts the scary aggressive tantrums, we don't give into his demands, but we hold him and tell him we love him, and to please not do this to us. In just a few days this has had a marked effect on his behaviour, and our control and calmness in these situations, means that when it happens, and it still happens, means there is a greater awareness of a build up.
The one thing I have noticed is that there is great escalation in the naughty aggressive behaviour directly after he has consumed a chocolate biscuit or something with high sugar content, and I'm now beginning to wonder if there is a direct correlation between this and his behaviour.
I want to work on his diet, and i want to do it properly. I'm just wondering if anyone who reads this can guide me, especially if you have had experience with food intolerances. As i said, I am abroad, so any Internet resources or book recommendations, or just general tips would be so so appreciated.
I love my son so much that it hurts. He's a very very smart little boy, with the comedic timing of Ben Stiller, and an affectionate heart so big that when he's not hurting me and others, can overwhelm me and others. This is breaking my heart for him, and the thought that there is something intrinsically wrong is devastating to me. I am hoping against hope, that diet has a main role in his behaviuoral issues, and that anything else is emotional.
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schoolshoeblues · 28/04/2013 07:59
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