Would this upset you?

(39 Posts)
Coffee1Sugar Fri 12-Apr-13 14:56:50

I took my dd 2.10 to a new play group today. She was building a tower which consisted of numbered blocks 1-10. Dd picked up the 6 and was turning it upside down and said "mummy is this a 6 or a 9?". Just I was about to answer, another mum muttered "god can't she tell the difference yet". She was clearly trying to be discreet but I heard, scooped up dd and left. Am I just weak or would that upset anyone else?

vess Tue 16-Apr-13 23:10:35

It wouldn't upset me, I'd presume it was a joke.
Sorry about your cousin.

Kiwiinkits Tue 16-Apr-13 03:51:53

This is the kind of thing people say when they think they're being funny. Are you sure that it wasn't a case of dry sarcastic humour? (My SIL specialises in this form of humour. When I first met her when I first started dating my DH she asked me, "which one are you again? there's been so many." in a completely deadpan way. At the time I was so mortified and offended. Now I know her I think it was actually really funny.)

superbabysmummy Mon 15-Apr-13 09:33:59

I'd hope that if you see that woman in Sainsbury's she'll apologise to you for being a knob!

Coffee1Sugar Sun 14-Apr-13 14:40:21

Thanks all. I know typically I wouldn't have walked but I was feeling shaky and over-sensitive. If I see that woman in sainsburys I'll trolley ram her grin

superbabysmummy Sun 14-Apr-13 14:25:44

Sorry about your cousin.

How rude! I would have been annoyed at that, probably a bit upset to be honest, I would have had to have said something to her... Probably along the lines of 'we can't all be as clever as you!'. Try and rise above it though, you are clearly a nicer person than her and that's sad for her not you!

lisylisylou Sun 14-Apr-13 11:35:39

God I had something like that the other day. I'd taken the kids out on a bike ride and my son (8yr) had gone off ahead as he was bored waiting for me and his sister (7 yr). My dd couldn't go up hills on her bike and kept going up into the highest gear! We kept going past these 2 lady dog walkers and I was saying to my dd ''come on you can go up the hill'. My dd was struggling and I was worried about my day being so far ahead of us. I heard one of the lady dog walkers say 'god she's being pushy making her daughter go up these hills!' I gave the lady one of my looks? I was furious with the lady and she knew it as well! Leave people to their own ignorance. I have a wisdom app that states 'don't judge other people their journey in life may be harder than yours' in other words she might be sad or jealous and took it out on you. Sorry about your cousin and youll get stronger every day

toomuch2young Sun 14-Apr-13 11:21:18

I'd of presumed she was joking and it came over wrong?
Sorry to hear about your cousin, bereavements can leave us all over the place, i hope your being kind on your self and have support.
flowers

Bumpsadaisie Sun 14-Apr-13 11:17:30

What a hideous woman! It would indeed have upset me. Not sure I would have walked out but I would certainly have been upset.

But you can console yourself that any adult that feels the need to make comments like that must be (a) extremely insecure and (b) have minimal social skills.

MeAndMyLittleMan Sat 13-Apr-13 23:05:28

Unless it has a line under it I can't even tell the difference lol she's just probably insecure because she's seen your child do something that hers hasn't and pointed out something that tbh is difficult to learn at such a young age. Don't worry she's just being a cow lol

Jakeyblueblue Fri 12-Apr-13 21:49:39

I think she was making a ridiculous and rude comment!
I stopped going to one particular playgroup as it seemed to be full of ridiculous and rude mums and equally ridiculous and rude children. Didn't really want ds in that environment.
Found a much nicer one now thankgoodness!

rabbitsnap Fri 12-Apr-13 18:59:13

Hi,
I agree with the poster who said the other mother was probably joking. It seems more likely than her making a ridiculous and rude comment.

Twentytotwo Fri 12-Apr-13 15:51:35

Just saw your post. I'm sorry about your cousin. No wonder you were feeling vulnerable.

TSSDNCOP Fri 12-Apr-13 15:49:31

A&E should be ABLE.

WTAF is my ipad on????

TSSDNCOP Fri 12-Apr-13 15:48:39

On another day you'd have been A&E to summon the correct MN response and PB stared her at the same time.

But under the circumstances, it's easy to see why it's got you in your soft parts.

Chalk it down to the fact that some people are just born twats.

garlicyoni Fri 12-Apr-13 15:48:13

I can't always tell confused I'm 58!

You were being oversensitive, yes. I'm sorry to hear about your cousin.

lisad123everybodydancenow Fri 12-Apr-13 15:47:05

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

i have to admit I would have said something s I am far too easily offended and since having DD its even worse, specially if about DD...

Def she was jealous... maybe next time ask the lady if she would be kind enough to teach the whole group mnumbers...

What kind of a cow comemnts?!?!!?!

Did you liek the group apart from that?

Very sorry about your cousin

Twentytotwo Fri 12-Apr-13 15:45:40

I'd have laughed at the stupid woman. If you can flip the block it is a 6 and a 9. I appreciate that if you were feeling vulnerable comments like that can be upsetting. I really wouldn't dwell on it too much.

Floggingmolly Fri 12-Apr-13 15:43:59

She was as jealous as a rat, God help her. Keep an eye on her little genius next time you go, should be good for a laugh.

daytoday Fri 12-Apr-13 15:40:02

I wonder whether she was joking. I think it's amazing your dd did that and wonder whether she was impressed too and said it smiling.

Maybe I'm wrong.

abbyfromoz Fri 12-Apr-13 15:36:32

Omg! What a silly cow! Sorry but i can't imagine my DD (almost 2)!! Being anywhere near that by that age! Your little girl sounds very clever- maybe she was saying it tongue in cheek? If not i don't blame you for leaving- wouldn't want to associate with someone that high and mighty

seeker Fri 12-Apr-13 15:33:38

So you left a playgroup because of one idiotic woman?

Lilicat1013 Fri 12-Apr-13 15:31:36

I would probably have asked what the hell her problem was.

It wouldn't have upset me, I would just think there is something very wrong with the women who commented (and probably say as much). I don't know why she would think it is OK to comment on a child in that way and why she cares about another child's level of ability.

It seems like a pretty reasonable question to me but even if it hadn't been it isn't her concern.

It is a pity you felt you had to leave but I can understand why you did. Maybe you can plan some sarcastic responses in case it happens again.

lljkk Fri 12-Apr-13 15:17:11

What Bp said.

Beatrixpotty Fri 12-Apr-13 15:14:49

I don't think it would upset me as it's such a stupid thing to say but I'd just think she was very rude

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