I've namechanged because I realise it's not acceptable to blather on about how annoying one's child is. But he IS.
My son, only child, seems to have a few problems. He's always been insensitive to others and we've worked really hard to make him aware of being kind, listening, not hurting and so on. He's nearly nine and I genuinely feel that he's not learned a single thing from us
I know these things are more innate in some kids than others but I don't know what to do to help him any more. He's just not that nice to his friends, not very nice to us sometimes. It's not even deliberate, though it can be.
The other thing is the talking. He can't for example sit in the cinema and watch a film without trying to narrate his take on it all the way through. He's worse at home, just talks through every tv programme. He talks nonsense through every meal and butts in with it when others are talking. And it's all such silliness, just stories and phrases copied off the tv, attempts at jokes. Quite often non sequiturs or things which are funny to him in his own private way. Really often violent images, to which we don't want to reply, really, except to admonish him.
I feel awful for him because I can see he wants attention and he's putting people off. But honestly we are there for him all the time and do things with him ever such a lot. He's not much of a joiner-in and doesn't want to go to groups or classes, he has tried and not enjoyed everything so he's stuck with us more than an eight year old should be.
I know that other parents get a bit tired of him and he doesn't really get invited around to other houses much, and I sense a hesitation when asking other parents if their boys can come over to ours. It's pretty heartbreaking and we would never say anything to him about it but I can see why it happens as he gets so hurtful when there's a conflict, and he also invents stories off the top of his head which are very confusing.
On the one hand he is a little sweetie who isn't all that socially aware, and has an amazing imagination. On the other, it's obvious that life with just us and a bit of school isn't enough for him and that's only going to get more stifling for all of us.
I haven't a clue what to do. His teacher concurs and finds him a handful but hasn't flagged anything specific up and has nothing to offer
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Wiwaxia · 11/04/2013 18:51
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