Ds(3.5) is quite a physical child and enjoys rough play (we did have problems with him hitting other children but this is now much rarer) however, dd (18 months) has witnessed the rougher physical side of him and has just started copying him, precisely at the stage when he was learning to be much gentler with her. However, she instigates the situation with a gentle shove or hit with a smile on her face, but wails if she gets whacked back since ds is much stronger than her.
I've reinstated the reward chart system for ds (which worked to get him to stop being so rough with her before) but dd is too young for this - I do tell her off and remove her but its hard for ds to see parity in reward/punishment.
Dd is gentle with other children and only seems to 'hit' ds for fun/to see a reaction. Ds doesn't understand this and hits her back in retaliation.
There are times when they get on brilliantly and dd is particularly free with her cuddles for ds. Ds also loves making dd giggle. I wish I could replicate this all the time.
Does anyone else have any experience of this or tips?
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Siblings hitting each other
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MrTumblesCrackWhore · 03/04/2013 15:45
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