He is 5y 9m, Y1. He has been hitting me and DH since about a month before reception, so 18 months.
I will give you the two examples from today...
We went out (me, DS and DD 3) to town and the library. Two minutes from our door, he wants to go a different route to town. I said No, not that way this way, as that way has more traffic and DD is on her scooter etc. He sat on the floor and SCREAMED. He then stood up and charged at me with his scooter and hit me in the legs. I folded up his scooter and put it on the buggy. I said right you walk nicely or we go home. He stormed at me again and punched me in the stomach. I smacked his leg. After a few seconds of harumphing and screaming he said he would walk. He carried on shouting for a few seconds behind me. I said right lets go home. Screamed all the way home.
Incident 2. We were going to bed. I put his CD on. I said Oh shall we put another one this is a bit boring as we have had it every night. Then I said Oh know cant the CD's are in DD's room. He screamed, please go and get them etc etc. I said No and explained why. I said roll over and Ill give you a tickle. He screamed. I said right ill count to 3 and if you are not rolled over, no tickle. So I counted and then walked. He charged at me again down the corridor, with a contorted angry face and punched me in the stomach. If I had been pregnant I would have had to get a scan. Ran back to bedroom and screamed. DH had a chat and said totally unacceptable etc etc.
For the rest of the day he was happy. Fun, listened (mostly), played on his own for bits etc.
Please note we at the end of our teather with this. I have not smacked either of them until 1 month ago, when I started hitting him when he hit me. I literally have run out of ideas.
He is big for his age and strong.
He is doing v well at School. No problems at all. Very popular, reading writing etc is great. Teacher says he is gentle.
He has never hit anyone except me and DH.
We cannot predict what he will go mad at and what he won't. On ten other occasions he will not mind me saying No we cannot take that route.
We have tried numerous things. I have stopped him going to parties, playdates, treats etc. Going to room, naughty step, reward charts etc. I play with him alot, he gets masses of one to one time with both of us. His diet is good and he sleeps well.
DD is fine, never had any problems with her behaviour that is not v normal.
DH thinks we give too many chances too often. I feel I am quite good with this, but could do better sometimes. The above examples are exactly what happened today, say it, warning, do it.
What can I do to stop the hitting/tantrums before they happen and if they do, during? I am exhausted by him.
Please help me. Thanks sooooooo much for reading.
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Pllleeeassseee help me stop my son hitting me.
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sunshineandshowers · 02/04/2013 20:39
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