I have two nieces, I'll call them P & C. P is nearly 6 and C is 3. They are both lovely girls and play nicely well most of the time with my DD (5).
P is a very bright girl and always has to be first and always has to win, she also has a bit of a problem with sharing. If she doesn't win or can't be first she cries and refuses to carry on with what they are doing. If I'm watching them I won't tolerate it and ignore. However, if my parents or her parents are there they all pander to her and make a fuss about why she's crying and try to 'make things better' by giving in to her.
She completely over reacts to the simplest of things, C took something off her plate (a bit of a cake) and she just went into complete meltdown. My SIL and B just kept saying oh P stop crying over and over again. They also didn't reprimand C for taking something that wasn't hers (but its cake so not crime of the century)!
P and DD were playing on an Ipad, P had been using it and my DD was just watching and hadn't had a go. P had to leave and put shoes on. She refused to and eventually gave in, this took 2 minutes. She then told SIL my DD was refusing to 'let her have a go' on the Ipad, this is blatantly untrue and poor DD had only had it for minutes.
Cue hysterics, refusing to move, screaming, everyone saying there there P, you can have a go, poor DD is just cast aside and P yet again gets her own way.
My brother finally for once in his life manned up and told her to get in the car, she refused, he repeated and she said no (she's 6 FFS)! SIL said leave her with me and refused to back him up. My parents and her are crowded around P making a fuss and trying to console. My DD is looking on in amazement minus the Ipad!
She has also been known to literally lay on the floor and chuck a massive tantrum in front of other people and its cringeworthy. C is now starting to do the same.
My daughter is no angel, but she only cries if she's hurt or I've told her off.
So how do I handly this behaviour, they clearly don't want to do anything about it and are happy for her to cry and get her own way. BUT I look after her one day a week and were also going away for the weekend, which will consist of everyone tip toeing round her and me biting my tongue!
Do I shut up and put up and let DD be pushed aside or make a comment a take the consequences?
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6 year old crying to get own way, how to handle and is this the norm?
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mummytowillow · 06/03/2013 20:22
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