how do i deal with tantrums - 8 month dd

[melarnz]

do i ignore, distract, tell her off or secret answer number 4?

[PanicPants]

I ignore or distract my 8month old.

[controlfreaky2]

"tantrum" at 8 mths? more like trying to tell you what she / he needs maybe? definitely (b) if sure not hungry / in pain / tired / cold / hot / etc

[PanicPants]

He only does it when you take a something away becuase from him. Bless him

[myermay]

8 months is so young too call it a tantrum. I think they just screach as they don't know what else to do to get your attention. My 1year old screams when he's in his highchair, usually shuts up when i give him a drink. Don't let the baby see it's winding you up though

[myermay]

just ignore him then, he wouldn't understand if you told him off/said no at 8 mths old

[PanicPants]

Yes it's not a tantrum, more of a cry, but easily forgets within a minute.

Certainly wouldn't be telling a baby off though

[melarnz]

she clench's her fists, if i try and pick her up she kicks and hits. if i lay her down she flails around like a looney!!!

[staceym11]

when my dd was 9 month she started crawling and i started with 'no' and time out, i know its early but i now dont have to tell her twice about what she can/cant do she knows not to touch any ornaments or the computer, she cant hit the dogs/cats etc. she is good, i think they can have tantrums that early as she did, but shes a stubborn moo-ey and always has been. its completely up to you how to do it but if it is a tantrum dicsiplin (cant sp) is prob the best route as the earlier the better i think!

[controlfreaky2]

how exactly do you explain time out to a 8 / 9 mth old?

[myermay]

i guess you'd put them in their cot!

[cod]

nope ntoa tantrum

baby is upset

[angelinaj]

Mine used to throw wobblers at that age

[soapbox]

I think you need to re-evaluate the bahaviour you expect from your BABY!

A BABY of 8 mo is not having a tantrum - trust me!

And the notion of time out for an 8 mo is so laughable it makes me want to wee myself

[HunKeRMunKeR]

SB, pass the Tenalady

[misdee]

ah right, thats what i've been doing wrong, i havent put my baby in time out yet. she is 14months old, do you think she is too old now? [

[HunKeRMunKeR]

Well, DS2 is 15wo and I'm starting to think I've missed the boat with him, Misdee...

I mean, sometimes he cries when he's hungry! What's all that about?!

[misdee]

lol

[soapbox]

Well you need to ignore my views really - mine are growing up so fast and I miss those baby days - so it;s hard for me to see those relatively straightforward uncomplicated times as tricky!

But I do know it doesn;t seem like that when you are going through them:)

[Chandra]

She is far too young for a tantrum. Check first what is bothering her, if you don't have a solution for the problem (like she wants to hold the bird that just flew above the garden) then...distract her.

[oliveoil]

When either of mine cried I went through the following list:

Hungry - give breadstick or whatever
Thirsty - offer juice / water
Nappy - check!
Teething - eating fist/red cheeks/sore bum
Cuddle - offer!
Annoyed - have you moved something they wanted?

8 month old does not have tantrums imo

Also, the above list can still work for my 20 month old.

[poppiesinaline]

Melarnz - 8 months is a little young. Is she maybe teething? I know mine have got very 'aggitated' while teething and been very stroppy at that age. She may be feeling out of sorts. You may also find that she may well end up having tantrums early - my DS1 started tantrums at 11 months - head banging, biting, kicking, screaming, wailing - very full on. Even the HV stood there . By the time he was 18 months he was in full flow but by the time he reached 2 1/2 it was all out of his system