My 6 year old son has said this to me twice. As background, I separated from his alcoholic father over a year ago, when DS had just turned 5. Sadly, he had become all too aware of the implications of his father drinking or not drinking.
Since then, we have moved 150 miles away to a much cheaper area so that I can be sure of being able to support us all financially if I need to. My ex is in and out of psychiatric hospitals due to a cycle of ODs, binge drinking etc. I suspect he will die soon.
We are surrounded by my family and I have encouraged contact with the paternal grandparents, with whom my children have a good relationship. They are torn apart by their son's drinking.
My DCs appear to be coping well with the changes in their lives although my older son's teacher has said he is quite reserved at school. He has also told me that he does not know how to smile. He is quite a difficult child emotionally. He has tantrums, finds it hard to express affection and now tells me he does not know how to smile.
I really want to support him as best I can but really don't know where to start. We get as much one to one time as I can manage (I work part time and the boys are 6 and 3) and I've tried talking to him when he raises concerns about smiling etc. I just feel helpless.
I am on antidepressants so it isn't inconceivable that my sons might be experiencing something similar. I have discussed things with my older son's teacher and she has mentioned getting the SENCO to talk to him about his feelings. I'd be very grateful for other suggestions.
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"Mummy, I don't know how to smile"
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Llareggub · 04/03/2013 13:45
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