One of my dearest friends has the loveliest 3 and a half year old. He is just a gorgeous little chap who is so well behaved and polite and is a pleasure to be around.
My friend isn't making a big deal about this but her DH is seriously worried about the fact that their DS just loves dressing up - especially in girl's stuff (fairy dresses etc - loves all the accessories too, wands, tiaras etc) he regularly asks his mum to put nail varnish on his nails etc.
This started when he was 2 and a half. For a long while my friend managed to make her husband go with it as she felt making it an issue with her DS would be damaging in the long run (I totally agree with this tactic) but it is clear that her husband is getting increasingly upset by it all - he is a blokey kind of kiwi bloke and apparently his mates are now making comments.
My friend has agreed to try to distract her DS from dressing up in dresses etc and encourage him to try more boysey things.
We all went to a fancy dress birthday party a couple of weeks ago and she told her DS he could go as Superman or Spiderman - he got upset as he wanted wear fairy wings and have a wand so they eventually compromised and he went as a cat.
At the party there was a fantastic face painter and while my friend wasn't looking her DS got a beautiful cat face painted on his face ... the only problem was it was pink! Her DH was very upset.
The DH is a very quiet and gentle man and has not said anything terrible to his son but he is really getting upset and worried about this.
Is there anything I can say to them to make them feel better? Personally I want to say to her DH that he should enjoy his son as he is, not for what he what he wants him to be.
Anyone's son been through this phase and gone 'boysey' later? So I can maybe show them that this may just be a phase?
TIA xx
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Little boy who likes to dress up in dresses - how can I reassure my friend?
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ghosty · 03/05/2006 11:32
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