I am 8 months pregnant and we already have a 3 yr old son. Since Christmas he has been getting more clingy towards me. He has always been a bit of a mummy boy....aren't they all though!?....
Anyway, he spends equal time with both grandparents each week and over the past year has developed a preference towards one set over the other.
They generally indulge his every wish and are always buying him new things, pretty much every time he sees them. I agree they are fabulous grandparents, but I find it a bit excessive. On the other hand, the other set are great with him and take him new places all the time but I think are a bit more the other way. He has to fit in with them a bit more and he isn't the absolute centre of everything they do (which is normal life to me) and there isn't an endless flow of new toys/books......well which is a 3 yr old going to prefer?.......no prizes for guessing!!
Anyhow, the last few weeks it has become more obvious, with him desperatley wanting to see the one set but not wanting to see the other and actually getting upset at the prospect if he knows I won't be there.
I now start to dread each week when they come to pick him up when they look after him for the day as it is so stressful with crying and generally horrible behaviour. I know he is fine as soon as he is with them and they have a good day, so I know there is no real problem overall. However, it is obvious to the one set ow he is prefering one over the other....... and I am painfully aware of this and it is really upsetting me.
I know I am probably being more sensitive than usual (I was with my first childs pregnancy) but I feel helpless to do anything. I know there is actually nothing I can do. He is 3 years old and it is probably a phase that will ebb and flow and change as do most things with a toddler. My husband tells me not to worry and although he recognises it is an issue, he certainly isn't loosing sleep over it!
I guess I just wanted to get it off my chest to a neutral party as I don't feel there is much else I can do at home.
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8 months pregnant and a bit stressed!...help
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ladypop · 01/03/2013 09:57
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