My son is 20 months old. He's my second child. In November, DH and I took him to see the HV as we had a few concerns about him, being (mostly)
- Lack of speech
- The fact he has never slept through and sometimes up three or more times a night (screaming)
- His "temper tantrums" where he'll headbutt the floor/wall/doors/radiator/person holding him in frustration.
The HV referred us to the doctor. The doctor referred us to the community pediatrician. We have heard today that based on what the doctor told them, they wouldn't be able to help and have referred us elsewhere. Still waiting for this appointment to come through.
The HV had expressed concerns that my son may be autistic. I don't have a lot of experience with autism (a few friends have autistic children but they're not friends I see regularly so I don't have a lot of experiences with the children). I would have never though autism but there is something niggling me.
A little by the by... but anyway, I'm feel like I am struggling with him. When he is having an off day, I can spend a few hours of the day trying to soothe him, or carrying him around because he will kick off if put down on the floor, or trying to hold him to avoid him hurting himself. On a particularly bad day, he'll headbutt the floor (or something else) several times in quick succession. Picking him up can result in getting headbutted / kicked, but not picking him up he'll hurt himself.
Yesterday the childminder said he'd had a really bad day (tantrums, bashing his head, throwing toys) and he was upset when I picked him up because I wouldn't let him have his sisters DS, so he was screaming as I left. He kept going "rigid" when I was trying to get him in the car seat, and it took me a while to get him in the carseat. He screamed all the way home. He had two bad episodes through the night, at midnight it was because I gave him a drink of water in the wrong cup... it took me a good half hour to calm him down.
Does anybody had any experience with this? Is it best to just let him "cry it out" so to speak, or should I be trying to soothe him/hold him (and getting headbutted). I'm struggling a little with him, partly because we are unable to communicate with each other. I'm just rambling really, but would appreciate some input.