Hi I'm new to the group and would like some advice I will try to explain my problem as best I can and hopefully some one can help me I have 2 children and 1 step-son I would like to say I love them all equally but I would be lying I favour which ever one is giving me the least headache at that time, my 1st problem is I'm at my wits end with my kids my dd is 11 and quite hormonal she has convinced herself that my oh doesnt love her and infact hates her (me and oh been together 4 years) this has only come up in the last few weeks and it breaks mine and his heart that she feels this way, she is also become very agressive to my youngest son but not my step son ?? both equally annoy her but she just yells at my step son? how do i help her understand we all love her?
2nd problem my son is 5yr old he has weekends at his dads and has moved in reception class at school recently his dad decided he wasnt going to return him to my care saying that i was an unfit mother it took me a week of going to court to get him back as i didnt have a residency order i have temporary one now as we are all beng investigated by social services to help the courts decide what is best for my son,I know this was an upsetting time for my son and have tried my best to deal with the fall out for this but his behaviour is beyond a joke he wont sleep on a night not going to sleep till 10-11 at night but the sleep thing has been going on for over a year his dad keeping him is recent for the sleep thing we tried sticker chart,rewards,time outs, later bed times, earlier bed times, sitting in the bedroom sitting outside the bedroom door and ignoring it and we are at a loss at what to actually do all these things were tried for a length of time but dont work for long 1-2 nights at most I have also tried explaining to him why he needs to be in bed and why i need him to be in bed to no avail any suggestions because im think of tucking him in with duct tape! he has also began stealing of us and school nothing really of value but things that he knows he shouldn't take we have taken the ususal steps explain its wrong make him return the items removed a valued possession of his all at the same time to no avail i realise this coud be attention seeking behaviour and try to spend time one on one with him when he hasnt being stealing in between all this i have to deal with mood swings and violent outbursts I love him with all my heart and i do enjoy spending time with him sometimes other times i want to run as fast as i can in the other direction from him when he's in a strop
I understand alot of these things could be a reaction to recent changes to our family my step-son came to live with us a year ago he has special needs but he's a lil star the occasional tantrum but thats to be expected when u have trouble communicating and have no motor skills he has global developmental delay, my step-son came to live with us as his birth mother was negecting him we went through social services checks for him to come live with us the amount of involvment i have had with social services you would think I was sick of them but as I'm doing nothing wrong I have no problem with them doing their job another recent change is we moved house so every one could have their own room but all the kids seem happy about this,
Alone these problems dont seem much but i have these happening all at the same time and i need help i know this post is rather long but i wanted to give as much history as possible thanks in advance for any help,advice and support you can give
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tinkerbelle31 · 05/02/2013 18:16
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