DS got very upset yesterday when things weren't going his way and he'd been forced to share a game with visitors (well DH snatched it off him and handed it to our guests for a while!). I also offered visitor's DC one of his cakes since he had managed to get one off the worktop and was eating it in front of them. He is usually good at sharing and not this badly behaved but clearly yesterday he was having a bit of a meltdown. He was so upset that he said some nasty things after our visitors had left (thankfully not in front of them!). I think he was trying to think of the worse things he could say to shock and emphasise how upset he was. He said he would set fire to our house and lock the door on the outside so I would be dead in the fire! Once he had calmed down we talked about this, he was obviously upset but did apologise because he knew it was expected of him (not sure how much he meant it!). However, shortly afterwards he said 'If you have another baby I will kill it'. He's five years old.
DH was really shocked and said he shouldn't be saying these things, where is he getting this from? We restrict his TV viewing and never watch the news in front of him, he only sees children's TV. Obviously we can't control all the influences on him and he will pick things up from other kids at school for example. He is a bright kid with more general knowledge than most children of his age as we do read age-appropriate factual books with him as well as children's stories. He asks lots of questions so I do end up explaining lots of things about the world to him. I suspect he's just put the knowledge he's picked up together to try and say the worse things he could think of and maybe that's normal. (I know they had been discussing the 'Great Fire of London' at school for example.) So, I'm wondering: is it normal for a five year old to come out with this type of thing? Or, have I got something to worry about with these type of comments at the age of 5? Not sure if I need to try and do anything about this.
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Fairly normal stuff for a 5 year old or have I raised a little 'Damian'?
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MGMidget · 04/02/2013 13:12
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