...I remembered reading on MN (of course :o ) about visual timetables and thought "what the hell, give it a go".
It is UNBELIEVABLE.
We have 3 charts now:
- a timetable which shows the whole week and what is happening on each day ie whether he has kindergarten, which activities are on in the afternoons etc etc, with cliparts for each thing (which he helped choose) and colour-coding for the days.
He then just does a big cross at the top of each day as it comes, to show where we are in the week.
- a "getting ready in the morning" timetable with a list of the clothes he has to put on, in the order to put them on, again with little cliparts (as he cannot read yet), and things like brushing teeth
- a "getting ready for bed" with first point being clear up toys, then brush teeth, loo, get into pjs, bring story for reading etc.
He gets to tick off the activities as he's done them, one column for each day (same day colours as for weekly chart).
It is AMAZING. Really, truly astonishing. It has:
-given him more responsibility and independence at a level he can completely cope with
- taken away the need for me to nag and remind him what needs to be done: I just say "check your timetable" or "what's next on your timetable?" and off he goes
- actually stopped the huge tears, tantrums and arguements we'd been having every morning and evening recently.
DS is very much a dreamer, he gets into his own little world at the drop of a hat, and it would drive me MAD having to remind him to PUT HIS PANTS ON PLEASE over and over agian. This combined with a particularly defiant stage made life very difficult.
I just wanted to share this because, while I realise it is not a miracle "cure" and it will not last forever, it has made SUCH a difference to us both.
Thank you MN :)