My DS is 4 and started school in September as one of the youngest in the year group. He did mornings until Christmas and really enjoyed school, although his behaviour wasn't tip-top, but since he has started doing all day, things have really gone downhill.
At a parent consultation evening last year, his teacher told us he was doing very well academically, but that he was not good at joining in with group activities. He pretty much refuses to do anything where they go into the hall, or to sit down and be read a story, for instance. He missed out on doing the Nativity because he just couldn't sit still long enough and started acting up and being disruptive. Likewise assemblies or church visits are a problem.
Since Christmas, he has been very unhappy going into school in the mornings, often tearful and angry and trying to run away and having to be dragged into class by his teacher.
Last week, she called me in for a word after school and said they wanted to call in a behavioural expert because he keeps trying to run away during school hours, particularly at lunch time or if his teacher leaves the classroom. He had not mentioned this to me at all.
Apparently, he runs out of the playground gate and into the main body of the school, where he usually gets lost and no one can find him. I hate the thought of him doing this, he said he wants to get to the school office so that they can phone me to come and get him.
When he has been upset in the mornings I have consoled myself by thinking he is all right once he gets inside, but now it seems as though this is not the case and that he is unhappy all day.
He is a lively and happy kid normally, although very full-on and he can be badly behaved at home when he doesn't get his way. But since he's been back at school he's become very clingy. At a birthday party at the weekend he wouldn't get off my lap, and this is so unlike him.
I'd like to know what a behavioural expert looks for and the kind of things he or she is likely to offer. Am I doing the right thing by agreeing to this? DH is concerned they might want to give him drugs to calm him down a bit.
Anyone's experiences would be great. Thank you.
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What can I expect from a behavioural expert called in by school?
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NaughtyDolly · 23/01/2013 14:22
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