9wk old fed and dry at bedtime and crying

(8 Posts)
AnnaHebs1 Sat 19-Jan-13 21:22:53

Should I keep returning to her and cuddling her or leave to settle?

Bluestocking Sat 19-Jan-13 21:26:48

I wouldn't leave such a tiny baby to cry. Little babies only cry because they need something, and if that's love and cuddles from their mother, that's not a small thing. If you ignore her, you're teaching her that her needs are unimportant. She is too little to self settle.
BUT I was very much an attachment parent when my DS was a baby (although I didn't know that was the term) and there will be lots of people on here with different views. What do you feel would work best for you and your DD?

Heffalumpa Sat 19-Jan-13 21:28:46

I agree with Bluestocking. She needs the reassurance, not to be left alone.

fuckwittery Sat 19-Jan-13 21:30:55

Depends on the crying - dd2 used to whimper a bit to sleep - any proper crying I would go and cuddle or try a firm hand on her tummy when you lay her down to sleepy- they get scared and wake up a bit from being so sleepy as newborns at this age so you may need to do a bit of settling. Follow your instincts.

ZuleikaD Sun 20-Jan-13 08:58:29

She's nine weeks old - at this stage nearly all babies are cluster feeding in the evenings and need to be with you - not left. It'll be some time before she has a 'bedtime'.

ThreeWheelsGood Sun 20-Jan-13 17:53:09

At 9 Weeks old there isn't a "bedtime"! Carry on feeding (might be cluster feeding, common in the evening), cuddling, asleep when baby sleeps!

CharlandOscar Mon 21-Jan-13 13:12:58

I think if you want there to be a bedtime that's fine! I had a bedtime for my ds at 6 weeks as it was my way of coping. I would bath/read book/feed/cuddle then down into the cot.I would go to him if he cried and wind/cuddle/feed until he went to sleep. I dont really like to admit it but started using a dummy too which settles his.
He was being terribly sick as would fall asleep while at the breast at night.

She might very likely be hungry.

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