so yesterday i went to pick up ds1 3 yo started pre school in sept and does 1and a half days. i was called in a room where 2 woman introduced themselves one was from the police and the other one from CPS.
ds had a black bruise under his eye as fell at the wknd and my little "angle" told the teacher when they asked him that it was mummy?!!! so they called CPS when the came to ask him he said he fell off the bike so asked me what happened and told them it happened in a public play area. so they asked me if registered which i didn't even think about.
i asked them if they wanted me to ask him there and then and they said yes so i started step by step trying to get him to remember where we went and where he played and what happened. After a lot of nothing he did admit where he went and what happened....
Ds never ever in his life been smacked so im shocked that he came out with this but recenctly hei has been making up a lot of shock statements like he is homsick or he's eaten a toy.
after a lot of questions they said they are satisfied that this is what happened and that it the future it'd be worth reporting it with the place it happens and also tell pre school when he arrives in the morning.
i feel deeply embarassed by this and as i was leaving head of pre school looked at me very unconfortably and said im so sorry.
i said you just did what you had to do it's fine.
So is this really what they always have to do or do they sometimes give you the benefit of the doubt and talk to you first before they call CPS.
as he only started in sept, we don't know each other very much so probably that could also be the reason
My parents said i should tell him how serious this kind of things are and that he got mummy into trouble.
Should i really do this?
i feel he is too young to understand the consequences and he might realise that "wow this could be another shock effect i can have on people" and would start doing it more?
So far i've already been taken aside as he showed his winky to others on the 2 occasions and also last week i've been told he hits and we also agreed that we follow the same reward chart +naughty chair discipline method.
his dad and i are fairly strict with him and don't tolarete any kind of violence towards his brother and i would say it's excessive at home but does happen.
he is a very interlligent boy but seems that he's taking his time adusting to pre school although he spent all his life going to playgroups so he knows what its like being amongs loads of other kids
any advice would be appreciated
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workingonitagain · 11/12/2012 17:43
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Don't sweat it. Kids do this all the time, but if they tell someone at nursery that mummy gave them a black eye, then nursery have to act.
It is far more sensible, by the way, to pre-empt this bollocks, by speaking to the keyworker when you drop him off, and saying 'ds fell off his bike and has a black eye'. Sometimes they ask you to sign it off - this is partially so that you can't accuse nursery of giving your kid a black eye etc!!
Moral of the story - always explain injuries, marks and bruising to childcare staff at drop off. Then it is not 'unexplained', and they can ask ds if he fell his bike. Reduces all sorts of complications. 
My DS has done this a few times, little bugger
The first time wasn't really his fault, I used to take him to Nursery and explain every bruise, my mum took him and forgot, he said I threw him across the floor and he landed on his eye. 
What happened was, he locked me out of the kitchen by putting the bin against it, I panicked as the cooker was on, took and run and jumped and kind-of karate kicked the door, he was behind the bin, behind the door, I threw the door open, he landed beneath the bin...
The second time, I have no idea why he said this but he said 'my mum was furious last night because of parents evening, I got the biggest smack ever', so the Teachers took him aside asked about the smack, where it was etc, he came home, told me I had been talking to school about him, told me the story about Teacher checking him for smack, I phoned the school furious and once again, it was him!
He still does it to me, I can be taking him to bed, sometimes I shout on my 12 year old to take him as if I have to touch he him he will say 'you're throwing/punching/pulling/pushing/dragging me'....
He was getting changed tonight whilst a school friend was waiting and accused me of kicking him, thankfully, everyone could see I didn't move!
I agree it is humiliating and embarrassing but people have to act on what the DC say, some are being truthful!
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