I have a DS who is 3.5. He is a very sociable, bright little boy who talks to everyone, he’s lovely, well-mannered, everyone complements me on what a lovely child he is. He goes to nursery two mornings a week and preschool two sessions a week and he loves it, everyone says how well behaved he is, and he appears to have made lots of friends there. However …
We don’t generally have that many visitors, not for any reason in particular, but DS sees most of his friends at nursery or we see them in the park. But usually when we do have visitors DS loves it and loves entertaining and chatting to all that come round.
Then on Wednesday a friend came round who I haven’t seen for a while. She had her DD with her and DS had been looking forward to them coming. As soon as they came in the door DS was happy to see them, and then about two minutes later he started crying. I asked why and he said he was tired. I said that he had been perfectly fine up till then but he just persisted and kept screaming. I put it down to a silly tantrum and ignored it but he kept on. Eventually I got out the chocolate biscuits for the visitors and DS miraculously stopped crying. I asked if he was ok now and he said yes, and he was allowed a biscuit. He at his biscuit, and as soon as he had finished it he started crying again. At this point I got very annoyed with him as I knew there was nothing wrong, so I made him go upstairs. He was made to stay there for a period, during which I could hear him crying. I went up and spoke to him and eventually he came down and he and the little girl played nicely together for the rest of the afternoon. Felt badly about it and had this feeling that the friend was unlikely to come back because of DS’ behaviour, he’s never behaved like this before, not ever. And haven’t heard from the friend since even though her DD left something behind and I text her to tell her, she didn’t respond. I put the behaviour down to sillyness but then today another friend came to visit and exactly the same happened. As soon as they came in DS started crying and behaviour was repeated. And again once DS had calmed down they played nicely for the rest of the visit. I’m really upset about this, my DS is always so sociable, he’s never been like this, and the fact he’s like it in his own home upsets me even more. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or where to go or what to do. I’m afraid to invite anyone round ever again now because it’s embarrassing, and if it keeps up I’m going to lose friends and DS will never make friends, please someone help.
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wheretogo11 · 07/04/2006 16:58
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