Why is it that my husband only seems to be able to use confrontation when my son is being naughty? It never works and all that happens is that DS ends up in an even worse tantrum than he started in. I have tried to explain and show by example how to use tone of voice, distraction and even avoidance when a tantrum starts but husband just starts shouting even when I am in the process of calming DS down. He tells me he has ?Had enough? of the behaviour even when I have only had a couple of minutes to try to get DS to behave. He has watched enough episodes of Supernanny that I feel he should have got the message that shouting and confrontation only make the situation worse.
Since I started work and DH has son to himself more often the tantrums have gotten to the stage of throwing and breaking things. Every time I even come upstairs to my computer DS tries to follow me as he doesn?t want to stay with his dad. Husband tells him off for things as simple as talking to him as DH just wants to watch his TV show and isn?t capable of listening to his son at the same time.
I just left the room and came upstairs, DS had calmed down and stopped crying for 2 minutes, then I heard DH started telling him off again so he is now crying and screaming all over again. How can I get through to my husband that he has to stop taking out his stress at not working out on our son. I understand when he does it to me but DS is too little to understand.
He has now just set DS off for the 3rd time after he has calmed down, I don?t want to undermine him but I feel that I am going to have to go back downstairs to get him to stop.
Sorry to be ranting on but I am just so tired off this happening every day. Last night they returned home early from grannys house as he had a tantrum there because DS didn?t want to sit beside DH. I would have just told DS to go sit somewhere else then but husband told him he would sit where he was told.
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Husband and confrontational discipline
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scampbeast · 27/11/2012 12:31
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