she is 3.10, and doing fine (I think). But she does a couple of things that puzzle me and that I don't see other children of the same age doing (but perhaps I just don't see it, which is why I am asking). She is moderately well behaved, but has her moments (!), and she is slightly on the shy and anxious side - she has friends at nursery though and plays well with other children once she gets to know them.
OK, the first thing is she doesn't handle being told off very well and always turns the criticism back on you, whether she understands it or not. Example: she wanted to wear one colour pull-up, I had the other in my head. I told her 'it's irrelevant', she says, 'you're irrelevant'. If I say 'DD1, I am cross with you about x', she says 'I am cross with you'. Is this about control? power? I try to use co-operation, and various techniques, but sometimes it's impossible to avoid these scenarios. Does this put her on the spot too much?
Second thing, which is related, but I would have thought she would have grown out of by now is: dd2 banged her head on the door; DD1 says 'I am very cross with that door and will tell it off'. Surely she understands by now that doors can't act?
Any ideas?
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explain dd1's behaviour to me
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rhetorician · 24/11/2012 19:57
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