That's it really. My niece is this age and I have a 2 year old DS. They are now interacting and playing more together, which is great to see, but there is clearly a chasm between them in terms of understanding what's right and wrong and their playing can become ill tempered at times - all perfectly normal i'm sure! My sister is pretty good at trying to intervene (as am i when DS steps out of line), but i want to know what i can expect in terms of her behaviour with younger children. On the whole she's lovely and very caring with her little cousin. But she can also get bolshy and bossy, taking toys away from DS when he's playing with them (and leaving DS absolutely shaking with rage!), 'helping' unwrap his presents (in her words) but then actually taking over completely and pushing him away from his own toys because she wants to play with them. DS, for his part, says 'mine' very often at the moment to antagonise her (more often than not in the right context since they are his toys) and is becoming very adamant about his possession of things, which again is very normal but trying when they're both together. We've begun introducing the concept of sharing and taking turns which more often than not descends into chaos.
His birthday party is on Sunday (a family only affair) and they will both be together for several hours. I am finding it difficult knowing where to draw the line and when to step in if my sister doesn't (the classic 'you started it!' 'well you shouldn't retaliate/ you deserved it!' argument). I don't like chastising my niece when my sister is around to do it, but sometimes i feel it goes too far especially as i believe my niece's level of understanding is far superior to my DS's. I think i am expecting too much of both of them tbh and just need to front it out until they're a bit older!
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matana · 23/11/2012 13:50
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