my twin boys are 3.4 and have been in pants for 6 months now since they were 2.10. They got the hang of wees quite quickly and within 8 weeks were completely dry daytime and are now 100% dry day and night. BUT WE HAVE GOT NOWHERE WITH POOS absolutely no improvement at all in 6 months.
First DS will occasionally poo on potty, but its very hit and miss and i always have to put him on when i notice he needs one, he would almost never do it himself. Second DS has issues, will not poo a whole poo, always little bits through the day cos he is witholding and 'nipping it off' as my OH puts it! I really feel lately that they are capable of getting it but refusing, they definately do fully understand intellectually what they need to do and will talk about it and come up with excuses.
They will say things like 'never mind' 'i will do it on potty next time' 'we are still learning mummy' then will say 'we are not learning very good, are we mummy?' and will laugh about it.
I have never got tough about it, my attitude has been gentle encouragement and to not make a big deal out of it and be patient and they will do it when they are ready - but its just not happening/ working
So now i'm thinking of a complete change of attitude and an wondering if i would be better off yelling at them! Have started a reward chart where if they get 2 poos in a row on potty they get to choose a reward from my 'shop' and if they keep on pooing pants i will take toys away, to the point where possibly all of their toys and locked away,not allow them their favorite TV shows, no sweet treats etc
Bear in mind i have been a very lenient mummy this will come as an absolute shock to them but probably the shock that they need? i would hate to make it worse tho, esp with DS2, the one who withholds i wonder if it might have negative effect . Help & suggestions please!!
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poos in pants - time to get tough? am at my wits end!.........
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1fish2fish · 19/11/2012 23:41
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