can anyone help please?
my ds1 (6 years) is most of the time very happy, is doing well at school, gets on fine with his two younger siblings but has always found it hard to relax, he is very active, loving, sensitive little chap, though highly strung and a perfectionist when it comes to most things. we have tried to help him with this ie. coping stragies using breathing, relaxation exercises, massage, humour, swimming, etc. He has no junk food and I make sure he gets outside to play after school to unwind. When he was younger he would bang his head when he got upset so I took him to a cranial osteopath which cured him of it but as he is getting older and more challanges come his way whether its falling out with a friend, losing in a race or a picture that has gone wrong (in is opinion) he will pull a bit of his hair out or scratch the skin on his forehead (not so deep that it bleeds). He will also call himself an idiot or stupid (both these words are banned in the house as we have told him how hurtful they can be). He just seems to turn in on himself and it terrifies me and dh. I am running out of ideas or reasons why he does this as his brothers seem to be the opposite but I worry not just about how this will escalate with ds1 but the fact that ds2 has started to copy him by hitting himself when he gets frustrated. This is happening about once a month at the moment, I have noticed he tends to get overwhelmed/overtired towards the end of term and I am tempted just to phone the school this last week and say he is exhausted but not sure how this will be received, I have talked with his teacher and she agrees he is a perfectionist but hasn't noticed any problems with this at school.
I have always been very conscious of nature/nurture idea as my side of the family have suffered mental illness and alcoholism. I am so worried that because of this there is nothing I can do to help change his behaviour or reactions when he feels overwhelmed.
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ds1 scratches his skin and pulls hair out when stressed - please help
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mule · 02/04/2006 22:57
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