My DD is really testing the boundaries..... help!!!

[stoppinattwo]

I only have to look at her the wrong way and she either bursts into tears or gets so angry DS 'gets it' when shes annoyed and there is only so much he will take b4 she 'gets it' back!!!!.
Im trying to be nice and not be reduced to raising my voice etc but I just find that sometimes she's not nice to be around. I am getting nasty stares now as Im writing this, if i say anything to her she will start crying again!! She found a little hole in her tights and has just made it 10x worse, then got upset about it. I feel like shes got teenage rages and attitude she's 4, I need to know what Im doing wrong, I feel like I cant do anything right with her, she can be such a jeckyll and hyde (dont know if i spelt that right!)She storms in and out of a room like a teenager would. Think her diet is quite good so I hope its not the food she's eating. Any ideas/similar experiences (this hasnt just started BTW been going on for 6month+)

[girrafey]

has it been since she started school or anything?
it affected my neice like this as she saw attitudes of older girls?

otherwise im afraid i cant help. mine is only 11 months so all this to come!!!

[colditz]

Is she getting enough sleep? She might need more sleep if she's just dtarted school, or full time preschool, and her behavior does sound 'tired'.

[stoppinattwo]

She starts school this september, and has been full time in nursery since about 6 months old so is used to the 'pace' of a long day. She usually sleeps about 11 hours a night but it isnt a very deep sleep and she rarely sleeps right thru without disturbing herself. Her routine very rarely changes tho. Its just if things arent going her way there is trouble

[4blue1pink]

I think its just girls !

[Sparklemagic]

As 4blue said, maybe it's just a girl thing! I have to say when I look round at my DS's pre-school, the girls can be so MOODY while the boys seem more on an even keel! I'm not saying my DS has never got angry, far from it, but nasty stares and only having to look at hm the wrong way - no, he's not that 'touchy'.

I have a friend with a DD who has said exactly the same to me about feeling she can sometimes do nothing right for her. Sorry to not have more words of advice but I know you are not alone and I'm sure this touchy phase will pass. Just keep calm yourself, then she might have the power to upset herself but not you aswell!

[Tommy]

was just about to start a similar thread about my 4 year old DS. Seems to be completely mad and a bit "wild" - throwing his weight (and stuff) around. Don't think it's just girls - think it;s just being 4

[stoppinattwo]

My DS is an absolute pushover, he's very easily pleased, quite demanding but only moody when he's really tired (or when DD has hit him for the nth time!!) Dont know if its boys girls or second child, dont think there is any reason. I can see so much of the way i felt myself as a much older child (that misunderstood hating the world phase) that I hope she isnt feeling this way already, shes far too young. It just seems that there is no inbetween its either an absolute pleasure to be in her company or i need a door between me and her.I dont think shes always acting spoilt, she gets frustrated and god help you if you laugh at anything she does (i dont mean laugh at her either) she thinks your laughin at her and goes mad.

[IlanaK]

Its a being 4 thing. My ds1 is just like it too. And I have read many threads on here saying the same.

[chipkid]

definately a 4 year old thing! My ds is like this. When he has one on him ,his current favourite expressions are

"whatever"
"I hate you"
"you never let me do what I want"
"shut up"
"just go away"
"just leave me alone".....

delightful! It is like living with a grumpy teenager!