My ds is 5.8 and is in his first year at school. Has always been outgoing, boisterous & chatty, etc etc. He has two older half-brothers but they don't live with us, so in theory I guess that makes him an only child.
He's always had little friends to play with at pre-school & playgroup over the last couple of years, and he has some cousins his own age so he hasn't exactly been shielded from other kids. What I'm noticing now though, is that he seems to find a child he likes at school and then proceeds to smother them. Eg, if he really likes another boy, he then wants to sit next to that particular child EVERY day at morning tea and lunch time, gets upset if someone else sits next to that child, and just generally shows them lots of attention by wanting to be with them at every opportunity. A few times now I've noticed that he's become really good friends with someone at school, then all of a sudden a few weeks later, the friendship seems to have fizzled out and it's usually because the other child has 'cooled' towards ds. It's happened with about 3 different boys now.
I think his over-attention towards these kids and his obvious admiration for them, probably causes them to tire of it or something. It worries me that he gets upset if another child sits next to HIS friend, like the whole world depends on it. When he was younger I always thought he'd be fine socially as he's always been so outgoing, but now he seems to follow particular kids around like a puppy. He's got a stable home life but I can't help thinking that he must be insecure or something. Does this sound familiar to anyone? Could use some help... thanks.
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My 5 1/2 year old ds & friendships... why is he like this, and is it normal?
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Mandy03 · 29/03/2006 11:58
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