In music class, my 20 mo DS, who is by far the most passionate in the class, lightly pushed another 20 mo boy on his belly today. The boy did not fall down or anything. The pregnant mother came over, grabbed my son's arm, and said NO, you can't do that, in an extremely aggressive, mean, angry way. I said, Don't Discipline my child very calmly, and she said irately that I need to discipline him better, etc. I said, he's too young, and she said he's a bully (He is 100% NOT), and that he's not a baby anymore. She started packing her bags to leave early in anger, and continued with her verbal sparring, so finally I just told her to Go to Hell (I know, bad, but hey, she started it).
Then, they were outside class putting shoes on, and my son started waving bye bye thru the glass, and wanted the boy to come back to class. The mother continued to give my son dirty looks, and yell at him thru the glass, discipling him THRU THE GLASS, which to me, revealed her as a psycho.
Everyone else in the class, including the teacher said not to worry, she's pregnant, and that this incident was nothing compared to 3 year old's, etc. But of course, I am upset.
A) this happenened in the US, where we've just moved B) she had been uptight earlier that month with my DS about musical instrument sharing, c) her son is shy and docile, and D) my DS is happy and passionate about music class, and cute and well-dressed, so it could be (envy) jealousy. However, I wish I'd had the perfect thing to put her in her place, while still acting like a lady. A month earlier she got bent out of shape b/c my son grabbed a drum near her son...you know the type.
The books say that disciplining a 20 mo is sort of pointless to a degree, and I really do not want to kill his spirit, or hurt his self esteem. But, I do not want him to push, obviously, and may have to address that down the road.
My question is, do some of you mommies of older, spirited boys have experience with this sort of thing. In my opinion, she crossed the line and therefore lost her power when she disciplined him, instead of talking to me personally. Any help is appreciated....
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Aggressive Mummy trying to discipline my 20 mo DS inappropriately
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catcatdelight · 16/03/2006 18:09
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