I think my DS (4yrs) has ADHD HELP!!!!!

[StressedStepmum]

I have always suspected that my DS had a bit of a temper and yeaterday, boy, did it surface! Previously wheh he has lost his temper, he has thrown things, been physically aggressive towartds me, spat at me, broken things etc etc. However, yesterday, he completely WRECKED my kitchen, I mean overturned the kitchen table (wooden), chairs, threw a bucket of water over the floor, rammed a chair into my stomach and ribs 3x, threw our coal scuttle at my shin etc etc etc. My partner (his dad) was in work and even if I say so myself, I deserve a medal for not screaming and smacking his bum. I didn't. This morning his behaviour has continued and again after school (he shoved me). I know this sounds pathetic moaning about an aggressive 4 year old but belieev me I am at my wits end. I can't cxontinue to be treated like this. I have been looking for reasons for his behavoiur and today I recalled a lecture I had in college about ADHD. I think this might be the root cause, but I am not sure. However, because of previous circumstances, the Social Services,GP and HV when I have mentioned this in the past, have just put it down to the "situation" and assured me that things will right themselves. But at what cost? I don't want my DS to grow up to be a juvenile delinquent and I don't want to be hurt anymore. For a little lad, he is really strong! I need some guidance and appeal to you out there to help me out. He is not my son persay, he will be my stepson, but I have been with his father for 3 out of his 4 years and out of the 3 children, our bond is the strongest. Confused? Me too!
Please help, advice is much needed and welcomed.

[nannyme]

If you can get hold of a copy of maggie mamen's book 'the pampered child syndrome' you may find her comment on ADHD reassuring and perhaps quite helpful. It's worth a read anyhow, whether or not it provides all the answers.

[amynnixmum]

Hi stressedstepmum

Have you posted this on special needs too? The temper tantrums on their own don't mean that he has ADHD. There are lots of other things to look for too. Have you looked it up online? There are loads of websites with information. My ds has a similar anger problem and for a while we considered adhd but it seems more likely now that he has AS. Is he at school? The paed gave me a treatment program designed to help deal with problem behaviour with children with ADHD when we were first having problems with ds. I can email you a copy if you like. We found it helped.

Sorry - a very disjointed post but CAT me if you want a copy of the treatment plan.