how do you encourgae your kid to take responsibility for hteir actions?

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very rare broo ha ha between ds3 and ds1 today over winning ( natch!)


ds1 pushed him ( very rare) ds2 crying
ds1 said ds2 " made him push him" i.e. that ds2 was going on an on ( i coudl kinda ge t hat as ds2 awas going ona dn onononon) but i had to explain that only babies had no responsibility over their bodies and when he pushed ds2 it was HIM who made his arm work. bla bl abla


then (as htey fell asleep in the car) it got me thinking how can we stop kids blaming other htings for their own behaviour,