Help - my dd 2.11 being totally vile to daddy all the time - is this a phase...

[onefootinthegravy]

Hi everyone just wondered whether anyone else has experience of this.
Over the last few weeks dd 2.11 has been increasing horrid to dh. Forever telling him to be quiet, she won't listen to him, won't cuddle him. is always telling him he's horrible and is just vile to him. He is at work all day and I'm a SAHM, she hates him cuddling me and just plays him up all the time. We treat her much the same, and have common ground in disipline, I have no idea where this has come from. Its got to a point where he cannot give her a bath or her tea without world war 3 breaking out. I feel dead sorry for my dh, bless he can't do anything right.
When me and dd are on our own she's an angel most of the time.
Will be sooo grateful for any advice.

[Toothyboy]

You could be talking about my ds (2.10) - he's exactly the same. I'm putting it down to changes we've got coming up - new baby due and moving house. He knows these things are happening and I just think he's clinging to me for the security.

I don't want to give in to him all the time, but do feel that I don't want to reject him if he is feeling confused and insecure. I shall be watching this thread for any advice you're given, but in the meantime you're not alone!

[Babyblue2]

I know how you feel, we're going through this at the mo. DD1 also 2.11. Perhaps she's not been feeling too well. DD clings to me when she's not well (which sometimes isn't apparent). DD1 has gone through a number of phases like this. We found that the best way to deal with this is for DH to back off with the 'come give daddy a cuddle/kiss' which is what happens in our house and just let her come to him. If DD1 is refusing any sort of interaction with DH, we would just ignore her protests and get on with it. I also suggested to DH that perhaps between say 6-7pm he asks her if she'd like to read some books, do jigsaws, dress dolly etc. and spend some time doing what she wants to do (whether he enjoys it or not). We did this last week and DH was over the moon as DD suddenly appeared at his side of the bed the following morning saying 'hello daddy' and getting in for a cuddle. This is something she NEVER EVER does. If DH backs off totally with the bath/tea etc. she'll see she's in control. Perhaps both of you start to bath her together and then after a couple of mins, you say you're just off to the kitchen or something and you'll be back in a mo, then go back after 2-3 mins or so, then try it again.

[onefootinthegravy]

Thanks, some good ideas there. Maybe its just a phase then, its nice to hear we're not the only ones. Well try the cooling off tommorrow, I've told dh not to ask for cuddles when he gets home and we'll see what happens.

[lollol]

Hi new member. My DS is 2.6 my second baby is due in march and she has decided to be horrible to her dad. She is fine if I am not there. But can be quite horrible when he gets in after a long day at work. ignorong it tends to work best for us. I just try to get him to start doing something she likes and she'll tend to join in once she realises i'm not going to play with her. good luck

[gemmamay]

My DD 2.8 is like this too so thank goodness it is not just us!