Just been reading up on this. Not sure if I agree entirely with Freud's theory but feel that there is some sort of attachment stage to the mother. This is supposed to happen between age 3-5. My ds1 is 6.5 but has autism and is developmentally delayed and certainly emotionally delayed/disabled. Recently he's been quite clingy. More the way he is talking rather than his behaviour. We were sitting together on the sofa and he said how upset he was that I'd gone away one time - this was a trip I'd gone on to the theatre with dd and ds2 2 months ago. He said that he didn;t want me to go away and wanted to stay with me forever. I thought it was rather sweet in a way but also worried that he's being clingy. He's been like this on other occasions too and even got upset because I went 'away' for half an hour to have a bath this evening! dh stopped him from coming through to the bathroom and he was really upset and told dh "I hate you!"
So what I need to know is - is this normal, albeit rather a late stage of the 'Oedipus complex'. What is the best way to handle this - I know its hard because of his autism but even in an NT scenario advice would be useful.
How long does this last? He's my eldest and so I have no-one to compare him with. dd (3.9) is also being a bit clingy and I have ds2 who is 6 months so also quite needy and feel like I am being torn in three directions all the time!
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Is there such a thing as the Oedipus complex?
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Eulalia · 12/02/2006 23:01
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