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14 week old cries at everything!

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bedhead1 · 12/02/2006 13:30

Before I get shouted at, I know babies cry but my 14 week old cries at everything. AFter suffering with Colic until about 8 weeks we had a blissful smily 4 week period until he hit 12 weeks when he turned into a grumpy monster. He cries when he is dressed, when he is put in the pram (and in the pram) when he goes in the carseat etc etc. He is also teething now so is 10times worse and seems to be crying most of the day and now in the night as well. Is this a 'phase' or is this his personality?

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enfys · 12/02/2006 13:39

my ds cried from day 1 through to about 7 months at just about everything.... unless he was being cuddled. he hated the car,cot,pram,pushchair,baby gym etc etc.i spent the entirity of my mat leave cuddling and carrying him. we now at 8 months have a happy incredibly smiley and sociable little boy (who still hates the car cot and pushchair). i think now he is sitting up and crawling he has found an independance of which the lack of frustrated him before.

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bedhead1 · 12/02/2006 14:31

I think mine might be the same enfys. He is forever trying to sit up when you are holding / feeding him and is happiest when you are bouncing him on his tiptoes. I feel a bit stupid when people are telling me to enjoy mat leave and I simply am not. He has given me some lovely smiles today but most of the time it feels like he just does not like being in the world. Did your ds sleep much as ours sleeps about 3 hours total in the day and 9 - 10 hrs at night (not straight through)

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enfys · 12/02/2006 18:42

yep ds was always happy bouncing on your knee or standing on his toes. he never settled for long sleeps during the day... maybe three half hours if you put him down (already asleep) but would sleep on your shoulder for hours. He was (still is but getting better) a terrible night sleeper which i am sure makes them grumpy in the day. I am not much help really because there was nothing we tried that seemed to make a huge difference. It does get easier though (where have you heard that before!?) once they can start entertaining themselves. just thought of one thing that helped, we got one of those inflatable rings that you sit them in and filled it with plastic balls, he'd sit in that for all of about ten minutes.... enough time to make and eat tea and toast!!! I know what you mean about not enjoying your mat leave though as you feel trapped in the house as putting them in the car or pushchair is always a trauma as your just waiting for them to start creating, i used to have to stop twice just to get to tesco which is only five miles up the road and lets not even go into the trauma of actually shopping.... just thought of something else that helped a baby sling when he could go front facing we used it a lot in the house as well just so i could get stuff done. My saving grace was mum and tots groups as he would sit quite happily watching what went on for hours and someone else would make you a hot cuppa,plus he would sleep for longer after.... he would also sleep well after swimming... if you can face the car journey there...... sorry for the waffle,hope it helps! keep smiling.

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bedhead1 · 13/02/2006 07:21

SOunds like we have a matching pair. Been up most of the night with teething and what could be a cold or just related to the teething. At 5.00am he decided it was time to get up and no amount of persuading would send him back. Will try and keep smiling and if one more person tells me that this is a 'phase' I will do them an injury!

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LadyG · 13/02/2006 09:00

ladies my 6 month old is the same-he loves company and hates being put down.
He got much better when old enough to be put in the Baby Bjorn sling facing out to see the world and now loves his push chair. The upside is that he is very sociable and happy to be passed round and cuddled by pretty much anyone-unless he is tired. For the first 8 weeks i was convinced he was just a grumpy baby but now everyone comments on how smiley he is.
I think long naps (one hour plus) are key to them not getting tired an d did whatever it took to get him to take a long lunchtime nap-buggy walks or car rides plus dummy lots of ssshing-even turning up the fan in the car to create white noise. Now we are getting him to take naps in his cot which is a whole new challenge...

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bedhead1 · 13/02/2006 11:04

Lady G. Ours naps in the cot but only for 30 - 40 mins. Managed to extend that out to nearly 2 hours today by turning on the hairdryer!!!! My parents have taken him out to visit my Aunt and he nearly passed out smiling at them when they came in. Guess its just take the rough with the smooth.

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Orinoco · 13/02/2006 21:03

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Karmamother · 13/02/2006 21:58

Bedhead, have you looked the threads on cranial osteopathy? Just have a read & see what you think.
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It can be used for alsorts of things but from reading lots of CO threads, crying a lot could be a sign of (possible) headaches due to misalignment of cranial bones. HTH

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thirdtimeround · 13/02/2006 22:28

My ds who is 10 months old, cried alot like yours and was only happy when being held. He pulled himself up at the side of the cot at 5.5 months and crawled at 6 months. He didnt learn to sit until 7 months because he was to busy moving. He is at his happiest out and about but has to sit upright in the pram holding on to the front bar. I really believe that some babies are just fussy babies. I had problems with eating, feeding, sleeping you name it. It has only just started to settle down now. Sorry I am not much of a help. After months of this I resigned myself to the fact that this is the way he is and just did what worked with him. Wondered what your ds birth was like?

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Orinoco · 13/02/2006 22:31

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enfys · 14/02/2006 08:52

a couple of my friends tried cranial osteopathy and they swear by it for settling a fussy baby. the birth of ds was very quick and i was also neurotic through out my pregnancy and would worry about every thing a few people have suggested that this might be why he is such a fussy baby. i keep thinking the next one will be a breeze because they also keep telling me an easy baby will always follow a difficult one!

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LadyG · 15/02/2006 12:15

I took ds to cranial osteopath and he said skull was beautifully aligned or whatever and no treatment needed. Am sure it is worth a try but I think with some babies it is just personality. Desmond Morris says in babywatching that humans are the only primates to smile because they cannot cling to their mothers fur to keep close to them-they do this with smiling instead. This made sense to me as I had a baby that cries a lot if put down or left alone but is very very smiley with me and in company. Hope it gets better for you anyway!

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bedhead1 · 16/02/2006 09:06

Lady G. I like that explanation that seems to fit my boy perfectly. I think that when he doesn't like something he tells me loudly! Thats personality, thinking back the midwives in hospital who held him all said 'this one has been here before'. He knows what he wants and what he doesn't want. At least he isn't boring and when he's happy, boy is he happy.