Bad behaviour

[Abirosie]

I have a 19 month old D and her behaviour can be awfull. She will kick off at the slightest thing and won't go to her dad at all, this i think hurts him a little bit although i am less firm with her than him.

She won't let me cuddle her and i have to wait unitl she is ready to come to me. It is distressing as i am starting to feel resentful.

I know this is terrible but i cant help it as she is so badly behaved.

[dear]

Hi Abirosie
your 19 morth she will grow out of it.
I know it very hard for you now.
But think is just leave your daughter with her dad
And spent more time with him I know this hard for your 19 morth old spent time dad.
But find she will stop kick off at slighest thing.

I know all this because when my son start kick off very time had go some where right up age of 8years.
And this was very hard for me.
dad was working lot time and he not see a lot of time.
I wish my son spent more with day how.
And all so my son had hear prombles and walking diffict. good luck i hope you get more help with your health vistor or doctor.

[Skribble]

Have you watched any of the nanny type programmes? Lots of insights, practicle advice and tactics.

[DominiConnor]

Have you watched any of the nanny type programmes? Lots of insights, practicle advice and tactics.

Yes they do.
However, they are works of imaginative fiction, not documentaries. They are heavily cut. The soundtrack is clearly edited.
After advert breaks you're seeing 40 minutes of a 168 hour week. Of that 40 mins about 10 is intro and the happy ending, so what happens to the lost 99% ?

You never ever see them them fail. Not once.

They are cut to make the stars look good, and the parents like lost souls who are saved.

These are about as useful for learning about childcare as Star Trek is for learning science or watching 24 is for learning about police technique.

Yes, you may be able to defeat an omnipotent hostile alien by using poker tricks, but it's not real is it ?

Same with kids. Tricks are not the same as process or skill, or simply taking the time to do it right.

Reality TV is a sham. A popular sham, a sham that is cheap to produce, and a sham that occupies a good % of TV time, but it's a sham.

[kittyfish]

Ahhh, trust DC to pop up with absolutely NO advice, just an unjustified attack on 'reality tv'.

Abirosie, my only advice is not to listen to DC and keep thinking 'It's only a phase, it's only a phase.' Good luck.

[chipkid]

It is so hard to have a child who is not needy of physical affection! My ds is like that "only on my terms"-however as he has grown-he has become very loving-again not in a physical way necessarily but in the things that he says.
It will get better as she grows and develops x

[Skribble]

LOL I think I hit a nerve there, editing or not they are based on commen sense . Good luck with your DD Abirosie, I should have added that most children do go through all sorts of phases and it can help to look to others for ideas and survival tactics when you feel you have reached the end of your teather.

[DominiConnor]

Ahhh, trust DC to pop up with absolutely NO advice, just an unjustified attack on 'reality tv'.

Don't tell me you work in it ?

My advice, which I fear you missed was to take "reality" TV with a big pinch of salt.

[Abirosie]

she has had me in tears this morning.