how do i stop my 2 yr old's aggressive behaviour

[knat]

My dd was 2 last month and has recently started lashing out and hitting. She hits me, dh and grandparents and has once lashed out at other children. I get down to her level and use a different tone of voice and tellher not to hit. She looks at me and then usually does it again. I then go and place her on the sofa in the other room (sort of time out)it is at thispoint that she starts crying and i walk out of the room. At some point thereafter she comes to find me and usually i get a kiss and cuddle (sorry). However it's happening more regular and i don't know if this discipline is working. She also headbangs. At the moment everything is heightened i expect because she does seem to be suffering with her teeth but she does generally come across as a volatile child - she's either up or down - not much in between When she's lovely she's really really lovely and when's she not she's well..... it's been a bad day!!! Any ideas or comment welcome.

[HellyBelly]

SNAP - my ds is 2½ and has been like this since I started childminding in July. I can completely understand the overwhelming change of having to share mummy and all his toys but he does love me doing this and has loved all the children! He actually got better for about 2 weeks and I was soooooo pleased to have my lovely little boy back (as when he's lovely he's gorgeous but when he's horrible he's.....!!) ANYWAY...Friday he started really playing me up (I don't childmind on Friday's at the mo) and the same on Saturday and Sunday. He was driving me and dh mad! He's been this way since.

I actually came to the behaviour section to ask basically what you have asked about the being poorly etc. Mine's had puffy red cheeks and although he says his teeth don't hurt, his gums are hot and he is teething his last 4 back ones (dentist said). He's also had a horrible cough and I think he's having problems with his ears too (hopefully going to Dr's tomorrow).

I truely hope that it's because he's not well as his behaviour is driving me mad and not good when childminding He doesn't headbang but everything else sounds the same.

Anyway, sorry I can't help but wanted you to know you're not alone.

I'll be watching this thread with interest!

[flamesparrow]

For violence of any kind DD (2 1/2) is put in her room (sort of the very naughty step for us... she sits on a stair normally, but goes behind her stairgate in her room for very bad things) - she is left for 3 mins (2 never seems quite long enough)... I then go back and if she says sorry and gives cuddles, she comes out, if she refuses, then she stays for another minute and so on...

It does seem to be working, she only hits out now when she is very tired and upset - I know that I reach breaking point more easily when i am tired too, so I understand it.

Having a sort of ultimate naughty place seems to help - she knows if she's been put there then she has been very bad.

[HellyBelly]

My ds finds it all a big joke Also, I give lots of positive praise and then he says he wants to be naughty and throws something.

Oh well, will keep at it. I'm just hoping with mine it's this being poorly that's making him bad again!