Hello. I wonder if anyone could give me some advice about my dd, 7. She seems to be developing some obsessive/strange behaviours, and so far I have reacted appallingly to them, by shouting/freaking out and telling her to stop.
I don't need to be told that this is the last thing I should be doing, but I am terrified that these behaviours are a "sign" of something as there is a lot of mental illness in my family.
The behaviours are: excessive toilet going, especially when I need her attention - seems to be a form of control freakery - "I just need the toilet" whenever I am about to do something with her, tell her something, or read to her, and then she might go 3 times in 1 minute. Fiddling and faddling about, moving objects ( I HATE THIS ONE!) arranging things, etc, strange touching of herself, like fluttering her fingers on her nose, or clapping. These sound to me a bit like Autistic spectrum behaviours, but she has none of the other symptoms - she is at the top of her class for literacy and average for maths,is very empathetic, imaginative, and creative, has a high reading age, and is very affectionate, and makes friends easily, and she doesn't indulge these behaviours with her friends. Sometimes however this other personality seems to come into play, which is very "young" seeming, a bit thick, a bit dreamy, and a bit "stuck" and she often doesn't know what to do with herself. I think I am guilty of having been a control freak mother myself and haven't allowed her enough breathing space. I have also got a filthy temper and have said some vile things, but never hit, and always been affectionate. I believe that neither of these things can have helped her if she has a tendency to obsessive behaviours, but I wonder if anyone can recognise anything from what I've said?
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anyone got an child with strange/obsessive behaviours?
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clove · 25/09/2005 19:33
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