is it me or are children these days ungrateful!

[kelli22]

i always try to make an effort to give my dd what i can - as well as material things i believe skills and experiences are very valuable and as im on maternity i decided i would do more with my dd now im not working full time, i picked her up from school today (im 40wks+1day pregnant) so dont really feel like doing anything except putting my feet up but i decided that i should be doing as much with dd as i could before baby comes along so when i picked dd (who is 6yrs old btw) she told me she'd got two merits so i said we would do some cake making (most kids would love this) and though she was interested she got very mardy when i wouldnt let her spread the mixture out in the tin (i did say she could sprinkle the bits on the top as soon as id done that bit and she did everything else) but she had a tantrum and now shes gone to her room, i would never have behaved like this for my mum, sometimes i just feel like my best isnt good enough and i should just sit n watch tv instead of bothering (i kno this is not really the attitude n its probably my hormones n stuff but i just feel like why bother is she's going to be so ungrateful!)

Any one got any views or tips?

[tarantula]

Absolutely!! but then I reckon our parents said the same about us

I know my mum did.

[kelli22]

Awww thanks i was feeling a bit crap, ended up trying to talk to her but that didnt go too well either maybe im just emotional and hormonal, hope this baby comes soon!!

Although im calmer now i do think children these days are very ungrateful, its sad that sometimes i think if i didnt bother with her then one day if i did do something with her she would be impressed, oh well ill have to keep looking at the bigger picture which is when shes my age (23) i know that she'll have happy memories of when she was a child and when she has her own kids she'll know i did my best for her and i was there making the effort

[kelli22]

Also she'll know how to make cakes lol

[Roxswood]

Or you just wonder even more about why your parents did things the way they did!

[cupcakes]

I know mine can be ungrateful - I'm starting to worry I've spoiled him with too many treats and days out.

Do you think your dd may be acting up because she's anxious about the new baby?

[sunnyside]

I think they can be but perhaps it's just individuals rather than a generation. My nephew was 10 three weeks after my DS was born. I bought him a present from us (DH and me) and then hid a little present from DS in the carrycot. Sent nephew to find it: he opened it then came over to me and said 'That's my worst present.' It wasn't said in temper just calmly and in a considered way. I was stunned. So much so that I didn't even reply. His paternal grandma whispered they can be so forthright can't they.

If he'd been mine I'd have taken it away and insisted on an apology but neither of his parents batted an eyelid.

[Caligula]

I think if they are, it's our fault.

They just get so much masses and masses and masses of stuff that they don't value anything.

Oops, I can hear my hooter going off!

[Alwaystired4]

I've no suggestions but i often feel the same about my DD and DS!! And find myself saying "grandma never let me have anything like this when i was your age" 🙈🙈🙈 There's always snacks and nibbles in the kitchen and always a kids tv channel available...times have changed and I unfortunately do alot of grumbling about it!!! Xxxxxx

[AmaryllisNightAndDay]

Most children aren't really aware of how much effort you are putting in. When they are enjoying themselves they are very much "in the moment" and yes they get upset if you stop them doing something they want to do but that's life. And even if they have had a lovely time I also know lots of kids who will have a tantrum at the end just because they are tired. But kids don't usually hold on to the bad stuff, afterwards they just remember the fun they had with you.

It sounds as if your DD really enjoyed baking with you. Don't let a tantrum at the end spoil all the rest of it for you. Remember the nice bits and encourage your DD to do the same.