(pls bear with me, this is a bit long-winded!)...
ds2 is 3 months old today, and I am having major doubts about his name. I was so sure it was a girl that we didn't even have a proper shortlist for boys, and we were stuck in hospital for 6 days and ended up feeling a bit pressurised into making a decision. The name was never on our shortlists for the other two, it just popped into my head and neither of us could think of a reason why not. Everyone else seems to like it, but it just doesn't feel like his name and never has. I don't feel comfortable using it myself, and when I see it written down (e.g. in big red lights at the doctors' surgery) I just think 'where did that come from?!' Apart from the unspecified emotional resistance to it, I am also not keen on its popularity or meaning, both of which I would have been able to research on the internet if we hadn't been stuck in hospital! I am seriously thinking of changing it; dh says he doesn't feel that strongly about it either way but if I'm going to change it I need to hurry up and get on with it; ds1 and dd say 'but that's his name, you can't change it'; 2 good friends say if I have any doubts I should change it, as they still regret not changing theirs.... I am so undecided I am getting on my own nerves. I don't hate the name, and I suppose what's holding me back is that I'm worried about changing it and going through the rigmarole of telling family, friends, official bodies, etc.... and then regretting it and wishing I'd left well alone. I have read other threads on the subject and some seem to regret not changing their baby's name, but does anyone else regret actually changing it? Should I just accept that what's done is done + the name popped into my head for a reason? Or is this going to bug me for the rest of my/his life?! One of the names I wish we had called him is his middle name - I know we don't have to officially change the birth certificate, we could just start calling him that, but if we are going to change it I would like to do it 'properly' (dh has always been known by his middle name as have his two brothers - they all have the same first name - and he does get a bit fed up with explaining it / confusing bureaucracy, etc.).
Oh, the names, by the way, are Theodore Reginald. (I know Reginald has had a couple of slatings on here, but it was the name of both my grandads, one of whom I was very close to, and I have always loved the short form Reg)
I know it's a decision we need to make for ourselves but I really would welcome any comments/experiences from anyone who has a view on the matter! thanks
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maniacbug · 11/02/2010 11:56
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