Parents hate our first choice name

(95 Posts)
polkadotsrock Sun 30-Jun-13 17:39:51

My parents have made it clear that they do not even slightly like our first choice name for our DD- will I care less when she's here, will it grow on them or will it forever be a 'thing' between us?? I honestly don't know why it's bothering me so much, perhaps because we had universal agreement on DS' name?

Shybairns Sun 30-Jun-13 17:43:53

What is it?

And its really nothing to do with your parents what you name your own child. They had there chance when they chose their own childrens names. I bet noone challenged them on thier choices.

LesAnimaux Sun 30-Jun-13 17:45:04

It's bothering you because they are being rude. (You have to tell us what the name is now,though!)

TeWiSavesTheDay Sun 30-Jun-13 17:47:04

Do you think they have a point?

Assuming that it's just not their taste - stuff them, it's not their baby they don't get to choose. Next time they mention anything tell them they are being very rude.

polkadotsrock Sun 30-Jun-13 17:49:49

It's Meredith. I don't consider it to be overly controversial but they say its old ladyish and couldn't suit a little girl :/

Shybairns Sun 30-Jun-13 17:54:03

It will grow on them when she has been born.

trikken Sun 30-Jun-13 17:54:15

It doesnt matter if they like it or not, it's your choice. Meredith is nice though.

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MrsHuxtable Sun 30-Jun-13 17:59:03

My mum did this to me. I didn't speak to her for about 2 months. I'm sure she now couldn't imagine DD to be called anything else. However, I've learned my lesson and will not be telling her any name choices with this pregnancy.

Meredith is lovely!

roundtoit Sun 30-Jun-13 18:00:01

They have had their turn to name their children its your turn now and I think Meredith is a lovely name.

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 30-Jun-13 18:06:08

It's lovely.

They had their name choosing name,they need to pipe down.

As it goes,I've never met an elderly lady Meredith. I have met elderly gentlemen named Meredydd (original spelling,prn slightly differently) in the more Welsh speaking areas of Wales.

LovelyMarchHare Sun 30-Jun-13 18:07:04

I have a Meredith (nearly 4) and it gets so many favourable comments from people. I was quite surprised so many like it at first. Obviously I love it and if you do stick to your guns. She goes by Merry as a nn and fortunately it suits her personality!

CointreauVersial Sun 30-Jun-13 18:07:53

I didn't tell my mum beforehand for precisely that reason. She was a little scathing when the choice was first revealed (after the birth), but 10 years on admits she has grown to love the name.

Really, it's your choice, and don't forget, her name choices are probably 20-30 years out of step with what is currently in vogue.

MissStrawberry Sun 30-Jun-13 18:11:14

None of their business.

Don't discuss it with them anymore.

They are under the illusion they have a say. Tell them quite clearly they do not. How bloody rude of them.

If you like the name, have it. If they don't then they don't have to see the baby.

I really like Meredith!
When she is born surely the arrival of a real live baby with a real live name will be the important thing?... I would have thought they will forget their hmm ness!

MissStrawberry Sun 30-Jun-13 18:12:31

How big of people to admit they have grown to love a name belonging to their grandchild. Bloody hell.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Sun 30-Jun-13 18:14:57

Why on earth did you tell them before you had her and it was a 'done deal'? That's asking for hassle.

notaverynicemum Sun 30-Jun-13 18:16:22

IGNORE!!!

Meredith is lovely. Non offensive. Totally lovely. And even if I (complete stranger) didnt think it was - I would still be saying ignore them.

Calle your DD what you like. Once she is here and they start using her name - they will forget they ever hated it. It will just become the norm.

Its tough luck if they dont like it and want to cause a fuss. They had you and called you what ever they did because they wanted to (and if they cowtowed to anyone else - then thats their issue and not one to pass onto the next generation). Its now your time. You call your baby whatever you like and dont be shamed or made to feel crap about it.

Depending on your sense of humour you could say yep - infact you have changed your mind and now have decided on Vimto,Domestos,Heinz or something else totally outrageous, to make them talk you into reconsidering Meredith!!

Ashoething Sun 30-Jun-13 18:17:23

We also had this with our dd. Every name we mentioned someone-usually mil-would pull a face and say they didn't like it. I know they are not overly keen on the name we did eventually pick either.

With our 3rd dc we had a name picked out quite early on but refused to tell anyone what it was-we had learned a lesson! The only negative comment we got when dc arrived was from bil who said to dh "its a bit posh"hmm

You will never please everyone so please yourselves-I think Meredith is a beautiful name.

polkadotsrock Sun 30-Jun-13 18:19:53

Thanks all, I'm hoping they'll have time to get used to it! Can just see their faces when they're telling friends etc and the thought of that is bugging me. Not to worry, I shall don my big girl pants and do as DH and I desire.

fuckwittery Sun 30-Jun-13 18:21:12

Meredith is lovely. Bit of advice that is too late now, NEVER tell anyone your name choice until the baby is here. It's much harder for them to criticise once the baby is actually named.

fuckwittery Sun 30-Jun-13 18:22:15

Someone I work with hated the name her daughter chose, and screwed her face up when telling me what a horrible name it was. I thought she was totally bonkers as its a lovely name, plus a bit mean to express such dislike for her granddaughter's name. so the only people who will look silly if they pull faces when telling their friends the name is them.

thegreylady Sun 30-Jun-13 18:23:11

It is a lovely name.I wish I could have used it-it is really beautiful.

isitsnowingyet Sun 30-Jun-13 18:23:53

Love the name Meredith - if they don't like it - suggest Ezmerelda instead grin

TeWiSavesTheDay Sun 30-Jun-13 18:26:21

Ha! We are calling DD2 Meredith as well.grin

Honestly, it will be fine, and know that you have the moral high ground over manners forever more!

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