What happens if...

(34 Posts)
Fifi2406 Sat 20-Apr-13 14:26:42

You and your partner have the total opposite taste in names ...say old granny chic/pretty names and ahem chavvy/ghetto made up names? Who really gets to decide and how did you pursued them? (force)

MummyBurrows Sun 21-Apr-13 14:00:33

Its hardly an arguement,I was simply clarifing what I said as neo either misinterpreted what I was or was referring to my first post,she doesn't say which,but I thought it was pretty obvious the santa claus one was a joke!
I said I think women should get the final choice if need be,not in general and in every baby naming process,it should of course be a joint decision.
I don't know about anyone else on here but I've never known any parents to not agree on at least one name or compromise for their child so its more a throw away comment than anything,but if it did seriously happen and come down to it then yes,I do think the mother should get to have her choice for the childs first name. Others may not agree and that's their right but would those same people say that if it came down to it the dad should get the final say on the childs first name? They wouldn't. Everyone knows and thinks it should be a joint decision and so do I,its the right thing to do.

I think it would take a pretty disfunctional couple to not be able to find a compromise or settle on at least one name out of the thousands of names in the world no matter how different their tastes are (and no I'm not saying the OP and her DP are a disfunctional couple,I've no doubt in my mind they will agree on at least 1 name or a compromise of some sort in the coming weeks or months just like every other couple having a baby).

If all else fails I'm assuming OP and her DP must like each others names so they could always name the baby after themselves depending on the sex if their names aren't unisex smile

exoticfruits Sun 21-Apr-13 14:10:25

You just keep going until you find one acceptable to both. Left to just me our 3would have had totally different names.

I think it would take a pretty disfunctional couple to not be able to find a compromise or settle on at least one name out of the thousands of names in the world no matter how different their tastes are I agree! smile

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Sun 21-Apr-13 15:43:19

It was your first post MummyBurrows....and your next post was FAR to long and badly structured for me to be arsed reading. I think your use of U for you did annoy me and yes...I picked on you partly because of that.

If you can write a post with paragraphs that's as long as your last then you can use YOU rather than u. smile

TSO Sun 21-Apr-13 15:56:21

I'd was dysfunctional wink and had the final say. I'd have have carried a lifetime's resentment if I'd had to give my child a name I only vaguely liked just for the sake of being unfeminist or selfless or whathaveyou.

But, and I must make this very clear before anyone jumps on me from a great height, but, I'm not telling anyone else to do as I would. I'm just answering the OP's question. smile

ShadowStorm Sun 21-Apr-13 21:34:15

I think you've got to keep looking until you find a name that you can both live with, even if you both end up compromising a little.

exoticfruits Mon 22-Apr-13 07:08:39

The only way that doesn't involve compromise is to have 2DCs and each have a final say, or simply toss a coin. I am glad that we just kept going until we got there with a compromise.

DribbleWiper Mon 22-Apr-13 13:53:58

Hyphenate, e.g. Martha-Chardonnay grin

stands well back out of range

I agree with whoever said that if you keep looking then you'll eventually find something that you both love. Me and my OH disagreed on names for ages but we finally found some common ground. I'd have liked different names more, as would he, but it matters to us that we both like the eventual name. I think that should matter to everyone unless there is a very deep set reason why they want something in particular i.e. family tradition, some special significance or whatever. Even then maybe you can have a variation of the same name or have a hyphenated name i.e. turning "Mary" into "Mary-Beth" or something. There are ways around these things!

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